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Vol. XXXIX No. 9

ADAS KODESCH SHEL EMETH

"AN INCLUSIVE TRADITIONAL CONGREGATION"

MAY 2010

ADAS KODESCH SHEL EMETH

4412 Washington Blvd. Wilmington, DE 19802-1226

AKSE Men's Club Breakfast

May 23, 2010

Featuring

Office (302) 762-2705 [email protected] FAX (302) 762-3236 Delaware Community Hebrew School (302) 762-3618

Nadiv Shapira, MD

"The Delaware Medical Relief Team in Haiti"

Delaware Medical Relief Team is an all-volunteer group of Delaware doctors, nurses, medical staff and support personnel that deploys to areas suffering from natural disasters and states of emergency. DMRT was formed in the immediate aftermath of the devastating earthquake that struck Haiti on January 12, 2010. Dr. Nadiv Shapira, a Christiana Care Thoracic Surgeon, was part of the first team that DMRT sent to Haiti. They arrived in Jacmel, Haiti, one week after the earthquake hit. In Haiti, DMRT personnel have performed countless life-saving surgeries and limb-saving procedures, administered medications and provided hope and comfort to the survivors. In the first five weeks after the disaster, DMRT already had sent four teams of medical relief workers to Haiti. Dr. Shapira graduated from Hebrew University Hadassah Medical and did a fellowship at University of Maryland Medical Center. Dr. Shapira will speak to the Men's Club about his recent experiences in earthquake ravaged Haiti. All are welcome! Dan Berry, Men's Club President The cost for the breakfast with a reservation is $5. If paying at the door without a reservation the cost is $8. Please call the office at 762-2705 to make your reservation. Breakfast starts at 9 a.m and the program at 9:30 a.m.

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Steven Saks, Rabbi Joel Kessler, Cantor

Gail Weinberg, Educational Director

OFFICERS

Mark Wagman, President Leona Weissman, VP Finance Harriet Ainbinder

VP Education

Vivian Goldberg

VP Religious Affairs

Marilyn Harwick, VP Administration Dan Berry, VP Facilities Judi & Max Rosenberg

VP Membership

Arlene Simon, VP Community Affairs Marlene & Mitchell Greenberg

VP Ways & Means

Elliott Echt, Treasurer Sharon Berry & Eleanor Weinglass

Secretaries

Dan Berry

Men's Club President

Mollie Epstein-Makar Dianne Seidel

Sisterhood Co-Presidents

NEW SHOFAR EDITOR HAS BEEN FOUND

Jonathan has graciously (foolishly?) agreed to take over the editing job of the Shofar from Lee. The goal is for Jonathan to be fully engaged for the New Year issue in September. The June and summer issues will be a combined effort. We are changing the email address back to [email protected] for all future submissions. Please be aware and patient as we work through the transition and Jonathan learns the ropes.

STAFF

Sharon Marshall, Office Manager Arlene Mac Laren, Office Assistant Carol Burg, Bookkeeper David Burnett & Terris Lee

Maintenance

The Shofar is published 11 months: September through July/August. Lee Heims, Editor [email protected]

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Jonathan Jaffe and Lee Heims

MAY 2010

PREPARE TO RECEIVE THE TORAH

Our ancestors slept through the night on the first Shavuot. G-d needed thunder and lightning to awaken them. This year we will not need the thunder... Join with Jews across the country as we spend an evening of study dedicated to the Jewish community of the present and the future.

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Mincha at 5:30 p.m.

(Candle lighting time is 7:54 p.m.)

AKSE's Shavuot services (Ma'ariv) start at 9:15 p.m. ... and the traditional Shavuot study session (Tikun Ley'l Shavuot) follows at approximately 10:30 p.m. with CHEESECAKE!!! THEN: Come hear the reading of the Ten Commandments

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Services start at 9 a.m. followed by our annual

ICE CREAM SOCIAL!!

Shavuot evening services at 8 p.m.

(Candle lighting time after 9:14 p.m.)

Thursday, May 20, 2009

Morning services (Shacharit) at 9 a.m. Reading of Ruth at 10 a.m. Yizkor at approximately 11 a.m. Mincha-Ma'ariv at 8:30 p.m. Havdalah at 9:01 p.m.

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AKSE FAMILY NEWS

May Anniversaries

8 16 17 19 24 26 27 Ed & Lenore Tocker Len & Lee Heims Dr. Neil & Lisa Woloshin Arnold & Shirley Klein Michael & Sophie Longwill Dr. Gene & Gail Tolpin Mike Cabelli & Rosanne Griff-Cabelli 30 Sharon & Melody Amar Bob & Cindy Weiner TO OUR NEW MEMBERS Sharon & Melody Amar Alan & Regan Root

They will surely be a positive addition to the AKSE family.

Speedy Recovery

Refuah Shlaimah. Good wishes and prayers for a complete recovery to:

Max Heimann Sally Levine Jack Shattuck Milton Slovin

May the Lord our G-d send a perfect healing from heaven to all his sick children. Amen.

Special Anniversaries

05/04/1980 Jim & Rhonda Lehr 05/25/1975 Dr. Howard & Judy Berlin

May Birthdays

1 Robert Levine Grace Weintraub 3 Morris Freschman David Goldman 4 Marcy Greenberg 6 Sylvia Wagman 7 Dr. Morton Brown 8 Sam Slomowitz 10 Sharon Berry 11 Helen Winslow 13 Yetta Chaiken 15 Perry Goldlust Arleen Kessler Iris Tocker Dr. Mark Weinberg 16 Carole Bakst 18 Phyllis Garfinkel 20 Matthew LaGrone 29 Florence Goldstein 30 Jean Hirshout

Mazel Tov

to John & Lena Elzufon on the marriage of daughter, Rachel Devora Jacobs Elzufon to Ian Couch on February 20; and to Rachel's sister Aviva and grandparents, Freda R. Jacobs & the late Albert M. Jacobs. to Stacy & Jake Weaver on the birth of daughter, Emma Josephine Weaver; and to grandparents, Ruth & Martin Hochheiser of Wilmington, Delaware, Judy & Ken Lau of Landenberg, Pennsylvania, and Dan & Lynn Weaver of Kansas. to Dr. Albert & Ruth Goodman on the birth of great-grandson, Kyle Henry on April 13. Kyle is the son of Dr. Alison & Mark Berger of Auburn, MA .and grandson of Jay & Connie Krupin of Washington DC and Russ & Sybil Mueller of Santa Barbara, CA. He is the greatgrandson of Mel & Gloria Krupin of Chevy Chase, MD. to Connie & Michael Sugarman upon the engagement of son Jason Shmuel Sugarman to Miriam Miles in Israel on April 6. Miriam's parents are Karen & Gershon Miles, originally from California, who made aliyah when Miriam was 9. An August wedding in Israel is planned. to Connie & Michael Sugarman on the Bar Mitzvah of son Maxwell Nathan Sugarman; Max is the grandson of Iris Cohn Cannioto & Enid Sugarman.

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EDITOR'S NOTE: Happy anniversary to Kara and Brad Haines. Their April 1 anniversary was omitted from last month's Shofar.

IN MEMORIAM

With deep regret we record the passing of:

GLORIA HOFFMAN Wife of Jake Hoffman PHYLLIS PEACOCK Daughter of Sylvia Hirshout Niece of Jean Hirshout Niece of Beatrice Hirshout Cousin of Barbara Joshua & Geoffrey Schoenberg

May the Lord comfort the families among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem and may they know of sorrow no more.

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Special Birthdays

2 3 14 16 19 22 23 25 29 Marlene Milunsky Joshua Schoenberg Bob Weiner Edie Slovin Michelle Glazier Dr. Michael Sugarman Marsha Golden Dr. Richard Sherry Alex Drucker Dr. Lionel Sandell

MAY BAR MITZVAH

ISAAC NATHANIEL RUSSELL will become a Bar Mitzvah on Saturday, May 1, 2010. His parents, Rosemary & Jeffrey and his brother Benjamin heartily welcome you to attend and join the ruach! Isaac is the grandson of Ruth Leighton & the late Benjamin Leighton of Phoenix, Arizona, and of the late Irene & Ralph Russell of Atlanta, Georgia. Aunts and Uncles - Helene Allgood of Louisville, Kentucky; Patty & Michael Koslow and Jonathan & Laurie Leighton of Phoenix, Arizona - and Isaac's dearly loved cousins will be joining us in celebration of this wonderful event! The Russell family invites the entire congregation to a Kiddush lunch

immediately following services.

MAY BAR MITZVAH

ALEXANDER EDWARD HAZEN, son of Peter & Laurie Hazen, will celebrate his Bar Mitzvah on Saturday, May 8, 2010. Alex is the grandson of Julius & Sheila Berman of Wilmington, Delaware, and of Jack & Patricia Hazen of Bonita Springs, Florida, and of the late Marlene Hazen. The Hazen family invites the entire congregation to a Kiddush lunch immediately following services.

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HANNAH HELEN NADIA LONGWILL, daughter of Michael & Sophie Longwill will become a Bat Mitzvah on Saturday, May 29, 2010 at 10 a.m. Hannah is the granddaughter of Barbara & Richard Longwill of Wilmington, Delaware, and of Nadia & Elie Hadida of Barcelona Spain. Michael and Sophie Longwill invite the entire congregation to a Kiddush Luncheon immediately following services.

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ORDER COLD STONE CREAMERY HOLIDAY ICE CREAM CAKES AND RAISE MONEY FOR SISTERHOOD: MOTHER'S DAY AND SHAVUOT. HAG SAMEACH AND ENJOY A YUMMY TREAT!

Cookie Dough Delirium: Layers of Moist Yellow Cake & Sweet Cream Ice Cream with Cookie Dough & Chocolate Shavings, wrapped in Creamy White Frosting

Cookies & Creamery: Layers of Moist Devil's Food Cake & Sweet Cream Ice Cream with Oreo Cookies, wrapped in Creamy White Frosting

Chocolate Chipper: Layers of Moist Devil's Food Cake & Sweet Cream Ice Cream with Chocolate Shavings, wrapped in Rich Fudge Ganache

Peanut Butter Playground: Layers of Moist Devil's Food Cake & Chocolate Ice Cream with Reese's Peanut Butter Cups & Peanut Butter, wrapped in Rich Fudge Ganache

Strawberry Passion: Layers of Moist Red Velvet Cake & Strawberry Ice Cream with Graham Cracker Pie Crust & Strawberry Puree, wrapped in Creamy Strawberry Frosting

Cheesecake Named Desire: Layers of Moist Yellow Cake & Cheesecake Ice Cream with Graham Cracker Pie Crust & Raspberry Puree, wrapped in Creamy Raspberry Frosting Circle Size of Cake and Price:

Circle Holiday: Mother's Day or Shavuot ­ Please specify Name: Address: Phone #: We will call you if we have any questions.

Check Off Type of Cake: Cookie Dough Delirium Cookies& Creamery Chocolate Chipper Peanut Butter Playground Strawberry Passion Cheesecake Named Desire

4 inch round (new size) 6 inch round 8 inch round

Serves 2 Serves up to 8 Serves up to 14

$7.99 $20.99 $28.99

Please fill out separate order sheet for each Cold Stone Ice Cream Cake and attach check payable to AKSE Sisterhood. One check can be used for multiple orders. 20% of all sales will go directly to AKSE Sisterhood. Deadline for all orders is May 6, 2010. Cakes for Mother's Day need to be picked up on Sunday, May 9th at AKSE Kitchen between 9 and 11 a.m. Cakes for Shavuot need to be picked up on Sunday, May 16th at AKSE Kitchen between 9 and 11 a.m. Any questions, call Judy Berlin at 302-762-3649. 6 SHOFAR MAY 2010

WHAT'S COOKING IN YOUR KITCHEN?

I have so many recipes saved for this column, I do not know which ones to use first. As you probably figured out by now, I am of the thought that you should surprise your family and shake up their taste buds even if they love the tried and true traditions. I am all for tradition, but sometimes with a different flavor. May is a month with Mother's Day and Shavuot. I always think of Shavuot as the "Dairy Holiday." You know, the kugels, blintzes, lox, cheeses, bagels, etc. And Mother's Day is a time when our family sometimes does a brunch so that all the Kauffmans can be together for at least one part of the day before splitting up to see the in-laws, as we have to honor all the MOMS!!. I remembered a Strawberry Puff Pancake Recipe that I had tested years ago and found to be delicious. It comes from a Temple Beth El, Newark, Delaware Sisterhood cookbook that was published back in the mid 1970's. A friend of mine from Sisterhood, Susan Ogintz, put this recipe in Cook and Tell and it is my pleasure to tell you how good it is.

Strawberry Puff Pancake

Ingredients

2 eggs 1/2 cup milk 1/2 cup flour Dash of nutmeg 1/2 cup butter 1/2 cup (2 oz) finely chopped nuts Juice of half a lemon 2 Tablespoons confectioner sugar 1 pint strawberries, sliced (or 2 cups of fruit of choice, blueberries, bananas, peach slices can be used)

Directions

Beat eggs lightly in a mixing bowl; add milk, flour, nutmeg, beat until blended. Batter may be lumpy. Melt butter in a 10" skillet over medium heat (use ovenproof skillet or Corningware) until butter begins to foam. Stir in nuts Pour batter into hot skillet over nuts. Bake at 425 degrees for 15 to 20 minutes or until puffed and golden brown. Remove from oven and sprinkle with lemon juice, return to oven for 2 -3 minutes. Remove from oven, sprinkle with powdered sugar and top with strawberries. (or sliced fruit of choice) SERVE AT ONCE. If you would like something to spread on a bagel for brunch here is another idea that is a bit more savory, but rounds out a nice brunch with salad and cut up cheeses (just a suggestion). My friend Helene Tanny put this Salmon Log into the same cookbook. It is one of my favorite things to spread on a toasted bagel, bagel chips or pita chips.

Salmon Party Log

Ingredients

16 oz. can salmon 8 oz cream cheese 1 Tablespoon lemon juice 2 tsp. grated onion 1 tsp. horseradish (I prefer white) 1/4 teaspoon salt (optional) 1/4 tsp liquid smoke (I never use!) 1/3 cup chopped pecans 3 Tablespoons chopped parsley

Directions

Drain and flake salmon, remove bones. Mix with cream cheese (which should be room temp.) and add rest of ingredients except for nuts and parsley. Shape into a ball or log and let harden in the refrigerator. Before serving, roll in nut and parsley mixture. This log is great for any party or just keeping in the refrigerator for a snack. Happy Mother's Day to all Moms and Have a nice Shavuot Holiday with your families. Hope you enjoy what is cooking in my kitchen!

Meryl Pottock

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Silence is Golden

By Rabbi Steven Saks

We often feel awkward when confronted with silence. Yet, silence can often be an appropriate response. After Aaron's two eldest sons were devoured by a heavenly fire for no apparent reason, we are told, "Vayidom Aharon" that Aaron was silent (kept his peace). One would expect the death of Aaron's two sons to have caused him to cry out in pain. Instead, Aaron was silent. While many of us do cry out in pain when confronted with a devastating loss, silence is also a natural reaction. After such a loss, it is natural that one feel the need to withdraw. For that reason during the period of aninut (after the death and before the burial of a close relative), one is exempt from the vast majority of positive commandments. Jewish law realizes that one may need a period of time to withdraw into silence. Likewise, upon visiting a Shiva house one should not greet the mourner, but instead let the mourner take the initiative. In other words, mourners will let us know when they are ready to speak. This practice respects the mourner's need for silence. It also makes comforting the mourner easier for those engaged in the mitzvah. Often we feel as though we have to say something to comfort the mourner. When we are not sure what to say, we may wind up saying the wrong thing. For example, when a man lost his son, his friend, in an attempt to comfort him, said, "At least you have your other son." The grieving father replied, "Imagine if one of your hands were cut off, would you calmly say, `At least I still have my other hand'? Certainly not! You would cry out in agony and pain." Let us remember that we do not have to come up with words of wisdom as we attempt to comfort mourners. Rather we just need to make sure our grieving friends and family members realize that we are and will be there for them. Let us also remember that it is okay for mourners to withdraw temporarily and, by our presence and by our silence, we are able to give comfort and support to those who react that way.

Live Generously Mitzvah Day to be held Sunday, May 16, 2010

The Jewish Federation of Delaware proudly announces its fifth annual Live Generously Mitzvah Day to be held on Sunday, May 16, 2010. This community-wide day of service brings together all of the area synagogues and Jewish agencies acting as one to perform acts of loving kindness benefiting many of Delaware's most needy citizens. We will improve facilities, prepare meals and offer companionship along with providing life-sustaining and life-enhancing supplies such as food, clothing, books and much more. "We are thrilled to be able to go out to places like the Emmanuel Dining Hall and Sojourner's Place where services are delivered directly to people who need them the most," said Live Generously Mitzvah Day co-chair Sara Leff. "The Jewish people have a long tradition of helping others so many of our projects will be done at non -Jewish sites. We are creating a great spirit of fellowship with these projects by building bridges between the Jewish community and the agencies that we'll help." The day begins at 9 AM at the Bernard & Ruth Siegel Jewish Community Center where volunteers are given breakfast and their LGMD T-shirts before participating in a rousing send-off by community leadership. Many volunteers return to the JCC for a free lunch and to enthusiastically share their experience of helping others. The greater community is invited to join us in planting, cooking, cleaning, sorting and delivering collected items. Full event details and registration are available on our website www.ShalomDelaware.org. For more information, contact Ruth Rosenberg, Assistant Executive Director at (302) 427-2100 or visit our website www.ShalomDelaware.org.

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See Page 3 for Holiday Times And Page 17 for Daily Service Times

Monday

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Candle Lighting 7:37 PM 7:44 PM 7:51 PM 7:57 PM 8:03 PM

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Saturday Evenings * Mincha Ma'ariv 8:00 PM 8:00 PM 8:15 PM 8:15 PM 8:30 PM

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Havdallah Times 8:37 PM 8:49 PM 8:56 PM 9:04 PM 9:10 PM

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* Torah study with Rabbi Saks 1 hour before Mincha

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From the Maintenance Department If anyone has borrowed or seen the "GREEN" power drill that belongs to AKSE Maintenance Department, please return it ... or contact Dan Berry at 302-598-0917 or the AKSE office at 302-762-2705. Thank you! SHOFAR 9

MEMORIAL DAY

MAY 2010

ELECTION OF OFFICERS AND MEMBERS OF THE BOARD OF GOVERNORS TO TAKE PLACE ON

JUNE 9, 2010 AT 7:30 PM AT AKSE

The following congregants have been nominated:

ADAS KODESCH SHEL EMETH CONGREGATION BOARD OF GOVERNORS 2010-2011

EXECUTIVE COMMITTEE President V.P. Finance V.P. Education V.P. Religious Affairs V.P. Administration V.P. Facilities V.P. Membership V.P. Community Affairs V.P. Ways & Means Treasurer Asst. Treasurer Secretary BOARD OF GOVERNORS 2010 - 2011 Carol Brown Mike Cabelli Joel Chodos Paul Gottesman Jonathan Jaffe Irene Plotzker Rhonda Shulman-Lattin Martin Zukoff BOARD OF GOVERNORS LIFE MEMBERS Jacob Hoffman Sarah Goldstein Bernard Panitz Ron Makar Leona Weissman Harriet Ainbinder Vivian Goldberg Marilyn Harwick Dan Berry Judi & Max Rosenberg Arlene Simon Marlene & Mitchell Greenberg Elliott Echt Jeff Seidel Sharon Berry & Eleanor Weinglass BOARD OF GOVERNORS 2010-2012 Mollie Epstein-Makar Jerry Feldman Ray Freschman Helen Gordon Richard Plotzker Neil Rosen Sam Samuels Wendy Shlossman PAST PRESIDENTS LIFE MEMBERS Harriet Ainbinder Elliott Echt John Elzufon Alan Goldberg Perry Goldlust Joel Roisman Harvey Rubenstein Jerome Smith Mark Wagman

SAVE THE DATE NOVEMBER 13TH FOR THE 125TH ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATION

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MONTE CARLO NIGHT

Many helping hands and kind hearts lent themselves to AKSE, making Monte Carlo Night 2010, a successful night of gaming, food, friends and fun. The event, held Saturday evening, March 13, would not have been possible had it not been for all of the people who gave their time, talent, energy and financial contributions. At this time, we would like to thank them for their tireless efforts, support and great spirit that made AKSE's Monte Carlo 2010 night a night to remember. Sponsoring the event, helping to transform AKSE's social hall into a `Riviera-like casino' with their generosity at the levels of Ace, King, Queen and Jack were the following congregants: Eyal & Dawn Abukasis, Harriet Ainbinder, Dan & Sharon Berry, Elliot & Mitzi Echt, John Elzufon, Ruth Goodman, Mitchell & Marlene Greenberg, Jonathan Jaffe, Michael & Sophie Longwill, Ron Makar, Neil & Shay Rosen, Max & Judi Rosenberg, Jeffrey & Rosemary Russell, Jeff & Dianne Seidel, Judy & Len Seltzer, Arlene Simon, Mark & Sylvia Wagman, Eleanor Weinglass, Bill & Leona Weissman, Helen WinslowJaffe, Neil & Lisa Woloshin and Marty & Ella Zukoff. Thank you to all sponsors for your generosity and commitment to AKSE events. Donations were also made by the following businesses and individuals: AKSE Gift Shop, AKSE Men's Club, Arleen Kessler, Barnes & Noble, Cold Stone Creamery, Ella Zukoff, Esther Schmerling, Giant, Harriet Ainbinder, J & J Produce, Jack Michael Hair Design, Jerry & Sandy Turnauer, Jimmy Amar ­ owner of Toy Factory in the Concord Mall, Karen Moss, Kevin & Lolly Gross, Learning Express, Mara Rasken, Mel & Roberta Woloshin, Meryl & Elliott Pottock, Robert & Paula Kralovec & Susan Hoover. Thank you to everyone who helped with these donations, whether collecting them or donating financially yourself. We greatly appreciate your contributions. Thank you to Dan Berry and the wonderful dealers he recruited for the evening, including Jimmy Amar, Sharon Amar, Dan Berry, Merrill Dorph, Elliott Echt, Craig Greenberg, Mitchell Greenberg, Peter Kopolovic, Jim Lehr, Neil Rosen, Will Rosen, Lenny Seltzer & Marty Zukoff. Without their help & enthusiasm, the night would have been a `bust.' The highly organized food committee ran the `Dealers' Deli' led by committee chair, Arleen Kessler and her fantastic team including: Sharon Berry, Eileen Cohen, Marlene Greenberg, Max Heimann, Sarah Hoover, Susan Hoover, Harriet Jacobs, Jim Lehr,

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Rhonda Lehr, Dianne Seidel & Judy Seltzer. Thanks to everyone involved in keeping our gamblers well fed, including bartenders Mitchell Greenberg and Jonathan Jaffe who kept the cocktails flowing for lucky gamblers all evening long. Thank you, Leona Weissman for the spectacular decorations you designed. A special thank you to the following people who contributed a considerable amount of time setting up and decorating the social hall with Leona's fabulous creations: Mitchell Greenberg, Audrey Katz, Dianne Seidel and Bill Weissman. Thank you Dawn Abukasis for your publicity efforts, original artwork and the special touches you contributed, to Shay Rosen for poster and ticket design & ordering, to Judy Berlin for running the 50/50 raffle, Dianne & Jeff Seidel for helping at the door, Judy Seltzer and Sarah Hoover for setting up the prize table, and to the rest of the committee whose help and insights made the entire night so great, including: Susan Hoover, Sharon Berry, Dan Berry, Jonathan Jaffe, Marty Zukoff, the office staff & custodians, and co-chairs Marlene & Mitchell Greenberg.

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by Mark

Wagman

WE'VE BEEN LISTENING ­ HERE'S WHAT YOU'RE SAYING (Report on Focus Groups)

In an earlier message, I gave an update on the task forces that are working to grow our membership and to strengthen our financial position. The task force focusing on membership has already made one important conclusion ­ that better engaging our current membership is a highly worthwhile goal and, in addition, is likely to attract new members. The next step for the task force was to ask you, our members, what you are thinking and what your ideas are to improve the synagogue. Thus, the focus groups were born. All AKSE members were given the opportunity to volunteer to join a focus group, and many of you did ­ thank you! What are the focus groups and what are they not? They are small groups of 5 to 9 individuals convened to get ideas. Groupings are by age or other categories. The participants are not randomly selected, and they are not a "statistically significant" sample of the congregation. Rather than representing all congregants, the participants are providing their personal insights on what they like and what they don't like about AKSE, and what changes might make a difference in their personal involvement. Before I report on the responses from the focus groups, I want to thank all those who were involved in this very successful project. First and foremost, my gratitude goes to Ken Kamm, who directed and

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resourced the focus groups from start to finish. He first directed a committee in developing groupings and questions to be asked. He then expertly ran five focus group sessions, as well as conducting telephone interviews. Finally, he compiled all of the responses, noting recurrent themes, and reported these to the task forces. Thanks also to Harriet Ainbinder, Mel Zussman, Lisa and Neil Woloshin, and Faith Silver for inviting individuals to participate in each focus group. The Silvermans and Woloshins also graciously hosted focus groups in their homes. Last, but definitely not least, thanks to the 40 individuals who participated and gave us their time and honest opinions. Whom we asked, and what we asked them There were five focus groups: members in their 70's and 80's single members members who are almost or recent Bar/Bat Mitzvah parents members in their 50's and 60's y o u n g f a m i l i e s ( b o t h members and non-members) In addition, Ken interviewed several individuals by phone who were unable to come to one of the focus group sessions. Most of those who participated are not currently active in shul programs, events,

organizations or committees. All participants were asked the following nine questions: What are you looking for in synagogue membership? What is important to you? How does AKSE meet or not meet your synagogue desires? Is there something negative that keeps you away from s e r vi c e s / e ve n t s / vo l u n t e e r work? Imagine that you are attending more events (religious/social/ educational). What did AKSE do or change to attract you? Imagine a Friday evening service that you enjoy enough to attend several times per year. Describe that service. Imagine a Shabbat morning service that you enjoy and attend. Describe it. If you could give one piece of advice to your AKSE board, what would it be? What ideas do you have to cut costs? What ideas do you have to raise income? Young families were also asked these two questions about the religious school: Is cost (dues and tuition) preventing you from joining AKSE? Is there some smaller annual cost number that would lead you to become a member and enroll your children in the Religious School? Are there issues other than tuition cost that concern you about the school?

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Some themes from the responses Ken recorded 379 individual responses from the focus group sessions and phone interviews. The task forces are already reviewing these carefully. You, our members, are also welcome to review them. Ken's complete report is available in the AKSE office. Though it is impossible to summarize the responses in just a few sentences, there are some recurrent themes mentioned frequently or forcefully. Here is an attempt to note some of these as faithfully as possible: Nearly every respondent would like more personal invites to AKSE events, more phone calls and e-mails (many are not currently getting emails); younger people would like us to use the "new media" (e.g., Facebook/ Twitter) We are a diverse membership with a range of familiarity with Jewish observance, and many of us would like to learn more. Don't assume we know Hebrew, melodies, or what is going on in the service. Teach us something at every service. Announce pages; we get lost easily. We want to feel welcomed and included. Clergy and regular attendees should be sensitive to variations in religious observance and knowledge. We do not want to be insulted, berated, or excluded by implications that we are "less religious" or "don't come enough." We would like the personal touch of a welcoming committee or one-on-one mentoring, particularly for

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newer members and Bar/Bat Mitzvah families. We like Rabbi Saks' sermons and congregational singing. We would like services to have less repetition and be shorter. Participants had a variety of idea s for invi gorating services. Friday night services are better than Saturday morning for young families, particularly if there is dinner before services and the service is short and exuberant. Women's issues and desires for egalitarianism were mentioned frequently by participants. Several say they are staying at AKSE despite their preference for more women's participation, because they value some other aspects of membership here. The young family participants (which included non-members) believe that egalitarianism is necessary to attract young families to join. Young family participants feel that AKSE has a strong and unique image of providing a strong foundation to Judaism through its excellent school and traditional services. They would like to see these strengths combined with egalitarianism. Parents will pay for the solid education provided by the school. On the other hand, they believe that many young singles and couples before kids do not see the benefit of membership. Bring them in for free, and they will eventually feel part of the community and pay.

Participants did not seem to be aware of our free dues for those under 31 and our reduced dues for those 31 to 36. The smallness of the school has advantages (individual attention) and disadvantages (limited social interactions), but is not a "showstopper." Two groups and some telephone interviewees mentioned going from two to one clergy as a way to cut costs. The membership and engagement task force is looking closely at the individual responses from the focus groups and using these to help guide their recommendations for specific actions and programs. Of course, they must also consider other factors, including the needs of our many "engaged" members who regularly attend activities. The real challenge is to find ways to engage those who are not currently engaged without dis -engaging those who are currently engaged. Some actions are easy and obvious. Others require striking a careful balance, "out-of-the-box" thinking or just plain hard work. Stay tuned for the final reports of both of our task forces--membership e n g a g e me n t a n d g r o w t h , financial options--in the near future. If after reading this article, you would like to respond to some of the questions we asked the focus groups, please do send me an e-mail or note with your thoughts and I will make sure the task force members receive a copy. My e-mail address is [email protected]

Mark Wagman

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Received during the month of March 2010

IN MEMORY OF

Mortimer Cohen, Father of Mitzi Echt: Mrs. Claire Karten; The Zussman Family. Nancy Muderick: Rhonda & Jim Lehr; Ruth & Al Goodman. Fagel Ungar: Harriett & Eddie Engel. Selma Williams: Phyllis Garfinkel. Donald, Brother of Rhoda and Harvey Ballen: Rhoda & Al Meizell. Mother of Larry Lebenson: Aunt Nan & Uncle Harold Pezzner. Millie Hurwitz: Lenny & Joy Davis and Family. Rita Krigstein: Libby Plafker; Marilyn Harwick & Murray Kaye; Jim & Rhonda Lehr; Harriet Ainbinder; Cynthia Kauffman; Nina & Jim Hubbert; Selma Barshay & Family; Mary Lou & Bob McBride; Arlene Simon; The Fit Staff; Shirley Fisch; Sara & Harvey Jacobs; Sonia & Buddy Groh; Joseph Santore; Jennifer Bevan & Gordon Staldes and Jennie Bull; Shirley & Buddy Cooper; Howard & Judy Zucker; Mr. & Mrs. Raymond J. Piekarski; Howard & Fara Theckston (Cooper); Anne Kelly King; Rita Golden; Jinx Blum; Nancy Sherr; Molly A. Cohen. Bob Golder, Husband of Ruth Golder, Father of Iris Tocker and Sharon Berger: Sally Lazar; Ray & Morris Freschman; Sharon & Dan Berry; Barbara & Herb Abrams; The Zukoff Family; Sharon & Jim Marshall; Carol Rothschild; The Leviton Family; Esther Schmerling; Warren Butt & Elaine Schmerling; Meryl & Elliott Pottock and all the Resale Boutique; Phyllis Garfinkel; Selma Barshay & Family; Linda & Paul Seidenstat; Arlene Simon & Jennifer Simon; Michelle & John Lipowski; Rhonda & Jim Lehr; Faith Kursh Bacha & Family; Libby Plafker; Michael & Sophie Longwill; Diane & Murray Horn; Kevin & Lolly Gross; Gil & Mardian Berman; Rhoda & Al Meizell; Terry, Matthew & Abby Sipress; Joe & Phyllis Glick; Lenny & Joy Davis; Ed & Lenore Tocker; Debbie & Philip Hayden; Paula & Norm Pernick; Nan & Hal Pezzner; Neil & Lisa Woloshin; Richard & Andrea Levine; Thomas & Diana Young; Jane, Raymond & Max Kursh; The Zussman Family; Anne & Fred Miller.

IN MEMORY OF RITA KRIGSTEIN FROM RICK PATTINSON

IN MEMORY OF RITA KRIGSTEIN FROM SELECT HEALTH OF SOUTH CAROLINA IN MEMORY OF RITA KRIGSTEIN FROM FRIENDS OF ALAN KRIGSTEIN KEYSTONE/ AMERIHEALTH MERCY HEALTH PLAN IN MEMORY OF RITA KRIGSTEIN FROM LENA, JOHN, RACHEL AND AVIVA ELZUFON (3 CHUMASHIM) IN MEMORY OF BOB GOLDER FROM GEORGE AND CHERYL SNYDER IN MEMORY OF BOB GOLDER FROM PIERCE AND JUDY CROMPTON IN MEMORY OF BOB GOLDER FROM JOE, PAM, AARON AND ZACKARY TOCKER

IN MEMORY OF RITA KRIGSTEIN FROM STEVEN AND CYNTHIA BOHNER IN MEMORY OF RITA KRIGSTEIN FROM FRIENDS AT ACCENTURE

IN MEMORY OF RITA KRIGSTEIN FROM COMMUNITY BEHAVIORAL HEALTH CARE NETWORK OF PA

IN MEMORY OF RITA KRIGSTEIN FROM JOHN MEEHAN, JR.

IN MEMORY OF RITA KRIGSTEIN FROM M.D. WISE HOOSIER ALLIANCE

MAZAL TOV

IN MEMORY OF RITA KRIGSTEIN FROM MR. AND MRS. JOSEPH H. BRADLY

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IN MEMORY OF RITA KRIGSTEIN FROM MIKE JERNIGAN AND SELECT HEALTH FAMILY

Shirley Fisch in honor of her Special Birthday: Marilyn Harwick & Murray Kaye; Kevin & Lolly Gross; Clara & Ted Mattes; Libby Plafker. John and Lena Elzufon in honor of the Marriage of their Daughter Rachel: Libby Plafker; The Zussman Family.

MAY 2010

The Cabelli Family in honor of the birth of their New Grandson Amitai Benjamin Orenstein: Judge & Mrs. Charles K. Keil; Libby Plafker. Vivian and Alan Goldberg in honor of a Special Birthday and a Happy Anniversary: Marilyn Harwick & Murray Kaye. Bernie Panitz in honor of his 90th Birthday: Joel & Gary Panitz. Judy and Howard Wilk in honor of their Granddaughter Victoria's Bat Mitzvah: Rhoda & Al Meizell. Jay Kogon in honor of receiving his Doctor of Physical Therapy degree and becoming Director of Physical Therapy at Wilmington Hospital: Susan Kogon. Valerie Howard and Steve and Sharron Howard in honor of Valerie's becoming a Bat Mitzvah: Vivian & Alan Goldberg; The Zussman Family. Isaac Russell and The Russell Family in honor of Isaac's first reading from the Torah: The Cabelli Family. Freda Jacobs in honor of the Marriage of her Granddaughter: Libby Plafker. Sharon and Dan Berry in honor of the birth of their Granddaughter: Libby Plafker. The Amar Family in honor of their New Baby: The Zussman Family.

Mother Florence Jacobs: Susan & Joseph Cicala and Family. Mother-in-law Mollie Plafker: Libby Plafker. Mother Margaret Schwab: Ralph Schwab. Alan Bruce Hirshout: Jean Hirshout. Saul Kagan: Ricki Comins. Father Louis Stromwasser: Anita Pollack. Brother Sonny Barshay: Charlotte Lawson. Grandmother Beatrice Rosen: Neil Rosen. Vivian Plotzker: Richard & Irene Plotzker. Dr. Harold Chason: Annette Chason. Parents Sam and Florence Wilde: Jay & Marilyn Wilde. Parents Berta & Samuel Weintraub and Cousin Minna Wasserman: Rhoda & Al Meizell. Father Nathan Schwartz: Allen Schwartz. Ronnie Blum: Jinx Blum. Frank Rosen: Sandra Rosen. Evelyn Cohen, Mother of Irene Aber and Michael Aber, Brother of Gary W. Aber: Irene and Gary Aber. Brother Carl Jacobs: Mrs. Annette Jacobs. Mother/Grandmother Ruth Pratt: Sue & Jeff Pikus. Mother Dorothy Kirshner: Herbert Kirshner. Mollie Plafker: Nate Plafker. Frances Klein: Gershon & Goldie Klein.

OTHER CONTRIBUTIONS

For enhancement of Library: Sam Kursh. In gratitude for Birthday Greeting from the Synagogue Board: Sylvia David. In appreciation of Mollie Epstein-Makar for visiting Mel Olicker faithfully every Thursday during his 4½ month stay at Christiana Hospital: Sherry Olicker. To thank Leona Weissman for a great job on the decorations at Monte Carlo night: Sharon & Dan Berry. To thank Arleen Kessler for a wonderful job in managing the food for Monte Carlo night: Sharon & Dan Berry. To thank Marlene and Mitchell Greenberg for a job well done in managing Monte Carlo night: Sharon & Dan Berry. To thank AKSE for thinking of me after my hip replacement: Wayne Kursh.

Contributions to be listed ($10 minimum) have been made to the following funds or organizations within Adas Kodesch Shel Emeth: Adult Education Fund Berlin Chapel Fund Birthday Kiddush Fund Cantor's Music Fund Edward Kauffman Building Maintenance Fund Eleanor Bell Kursh Library Fund Endowment Fund General Fund Jerusalem Study Fund Jules Segal Scholarship Fund Kesher Committee Fund Kiddush Fund Leo Brenner Holocaust Study Memorial Fund Maintenance & Repair Sinking Fund Mark I. Cheitlin Camp Scholarship Fund Rabbi's Discretionary Fund Religious School Sanctuary Flower Fund Sarah Goldstein's Concert Fund Se'udah Sh'lishit Fund Sisterhood Sol Segal Torah Repair Fund Sylvia and Isadore N. Silverman Scholarship Fund Toba Gross Tephillin Fund Victor & Dora Rubin Landscape Fund Women's Tefillah Group. When a Chumash ($60) is purchased, this is always indicated in the listing. Siddurim (prayer books) and chairs are not needed at this time. The Congregation thanks you for your contributions. Care is taken to direct contributions to a specific fund if designated. If no designation is made at the time of the contribution, the money is placed in the General Fund. The General Fund constitutes the major source of our revenue and is vital for a successful and healthy budget.

IN HONOR OF THE BIRTH OF OUR SON AND IN GRATEFULNESS FOR MELISSA'S RECOVERY FROM JIMMY AND MELISSA AMAR

FOR YAHRZEIT OF ANNA HIRSHOUT SLONSKY BY SARALIE SLONSKY FOR YAHRZEITS OF SAMUEL WOLOSHIN EVELYN WOLOSHIN NATHAN P. MICHLIN BY ROBERTA AND MEL WOLOSHIN FOR YAHRZEITS OF MINNIE BERLIN SARA L. BERLIN DR. F. JOSEPH BERLIN ESTHER BERLIN BY HOWARD AND JUDY BERLIN FOR YAHRZEITS OF THE GOLDENS: MAX AND GUSSIE, AL AND ADA, SADIE, LOUIS AND MARTY BY RITA GOLDEN

SPEEDY RECOVERY

Ruth Goodman: Judge & Mrs. Charles K. Keil; Libby Plafker; The Zukoff Family. Mildred Wolinsky: Louise Kursh. Dr. Geoff Goldworm: Joy & Lenny Davis. Max Heimann: Rhoda & Al Meizell; Sharon & Jim Marshall Helen Gordon: Libby Plafker.

YAHRZEITS

Rose Dorph: Marvin & Muriel Dorph. Father Maurice Kates: Barbara & Marvin Balick. Grandfather: Jerry Feldman. Bessie Sandell: Nancy & Lionel Sandell and Family. Sam Goodman: Albert & Ruth Goodman. Jessie Myers: Barbara & Herb Abrams. Father Louis Stromwasser: Howard Stromwasser. Edna Greenberg: Lolly Gross. Sister Gert Greenwald: Annette & Maurice Jacobs. Dan Cheitlin: Millicent Cheitlin. Frieda Grossman: Sandra Korr.

T H A NK Y OU F O R Y OU R C O N TR I B UT I O N S AND S U P P OR T ~ P A S T , P R E S E NT A N D F U T U R E !

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MAY YAHRZEITS

1 Louis Schreiber 2 Ida Braverman Bertha Stuzin Abraham Tenenbaum 3 Bertram E. Jacobs 4 Dr. Benjamin Fink Mildred Frankfurt 5 Sydney Balick Florence Chavin Rabbi Leonard B. Gewirtz Minnie Kessler Norma Lessin Ida Schuman 6 Mary Frankfurt Aaron Taub 7 Jack Marshall Louis Segal Abraham Seidel Fannie Vittes 8 Isaac Hoffman Shirley Levy Florence Lillian Stiebel 9 Dr. Jack S. Jacobs Irvin Waxman 10 Yetta Fried Martin I. Rudnitsky 11 Lena Goldberg Milton Sharon Rose Westerman 12 Hillel Cheitlin Sidney Hessing Joseph Tannen 13 Leah Jaffe Mary Masser Ethel Weiss 14 Gladys Heims Minnie Seitz 15 Samuel Chanin Arthur Penn Samuel Shapiro 16 Irving Echt Jacob Sklut Labe Sklut William Weiner 17 Jack Bloom Isadore Levy Samuel Wolinsky 19 Rose Cohn Samuel Golder Ruth Plafker Isadore Silverman Joseph Stutman 20 Frances Maisel 21 Celia Bleiberg Arnold Moss Henry Weiner Morris Weintraub 23 Isaac Walles 24 Abraham Goodman John J. Lavin 25 Sol Pollack Dave H. A. Rosenberg 26 Rae Jacobs Sarah B. Stutman 27 Jeffrey Heimann Helene K. Keil Benjamin Kessler Harry Rofel 28 Jay Silberman Dr. Jack Allen Wiener 29 Anna Lewis David Miller Jacob Plafker 30 Ray Hochheiser Samuel Schuman 31 Clara Bader Rubin Meisel

PLEASE NOTE: Yahrzeit dates listed represent the English dates which correspond to the Hebrew dates of death.

MEN, WE NEED YOU! PLEASE HELP KEEP THE MINYAN STRONG BY ATTENDING 1 OR 2 SERVICES PER WEEK.

Times are as follows: Sunday 8:00 a.m. Monday - Thursday 7:00 a.m. & 5:30 p.m. Friday 7:00 a.m. & 7:00 p.m. Shabbat Services at 9:00 a.m. SEE CALENDAR for Mincha Ma'ariv times.

HOLIDAY TIMES MAY DIFFER. SEE SEPARATE SCHEDULES WHEN APPROPRIATE.

SCHOENBERG MEMORIAL CHAPEL

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Please call: Sally Goodman at (302) 764-7000

MAY 2010

ADAS KODESCH SHEL EMETH 4412 WASHINGTON BLVD. WILMINGTON, DELAWARE 19802-1226

MAY 2010 INDEX

ADVERTISERS Bayshore Ford Boscov's Ala Carte Harriet Jacobs Realtor Kreston Wine & Spirits Kutz Home Schoenberg Memorial Chapel ShopRite WorldComm Corp. AKSE FAMILY NEWS CALENDARS AND SCHEDULES Calendar Daily Service Times Shavuot Schedule Shofar Deadline DONATIONS EVENTS, ANNOUNCEMENTS, ETC. Bar/Bat Mitzvahs Café Tamar New Shofar Editor has been Found Election of Officers & Members of Board Live Generously Mitzvah Day Men's Club Breakfast SISTERHOOD Monte Carlo Night Order Holiday Ice Cream Cakes PRESIDENT'S MESSAGE RABBI SAKS' MESSAGE WHAT'S COOKING IN YOUR KITCHEN? YAHRZEITS 11 6 12-13 8 7 17 5 1 2 10 8 2 9 17 3 18 14-15 PAGE 18 16 16 16 17 17 16 16 4

WHEN PATRONIZING OUR ADVERTISERS, WHO HELP PAY FOR THE SHOFAR, PLEASE MENTION YOU SAW THEIR ADS IN THE AKSE SHOFAR. IF YOU ARE INTERESTED IN ADVERTISING IN THE SHOFAR, please contact AKSE at [email protected] or call (302) 762-2705.

DEADLINE FOR JUNE SHOFAR IS TUESDAY, MAY 4, 2010 Submissions due ON or BEFORE the DEADLINE in order to publish the Shofar in a timely fashion. Only items submitted on time can be guaranteed inclusion in the Shofar (subject to editorial discretion). SUBMISSIONS MUST BE IN WRITING! Email to [email protected] or mail, Fax or hand deliver to the synagogue office.

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