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Pretty TGirls Magazine

November 2006

An interview with Jessica Leigh

Pretty TGirls Magazine is a production of the Pretty TGirls Group and is intended as a free resource for the Group Transgendered community. Articles and advertisements may be submitted for consideration to the editor, Rachel Pastel, submitted at [email protected] . It is our hope that our magazine will increase the understanding of the TG world and Pretty TGirls Magazine - November 2006 page 1 better acceptance of TGirls in our society. To that end, any articles and notices are appreciated and welcomed for review ! articles

Pretty TGirls Magazine

November 2006 Edition Welcome to the November edition ... Take pride and joy with being a TGirl ! Table of contents:

Cover Girl Jessica Leigh Our Best Wishes To ~Sweet~ !!! Members' Then and Now Pics Editor's Corner - Rachel Pastel Patty's Powder Room - Patty Cakes The Real Truth About Crossdressing - Ellen Sherman Kathy's Korner - Kathryn Hughes TG Conventions - Leigh Smythe The Inside Image? - Lauren Thomas TG-Friendly Places To Go (work-in-progress) A Upcoming TG Events Advertisements and newsy items Our Miss November 2006 Cover Girls Our November 2006 Calendar

Magazine courtesy of the Pretty TGirls Group at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/prettytgirls Pretty TGirls Magazine - November 2006 page 2

Our best wishes to you ~Sweet~

My personal note ... Sweet, you know you are very dear to me and I pray for a quick and complete recovery honey. You have given so very much and please know that so very many are wishing their very best in their prayers. Below are just some of the wishes from PTG members. With Love, Rachel

My prayers are with Sweet for A speedy recovery. She is a strong lady and will pull thru this. Hugs Maureen Please ad my name to the card for Sweet Best wishes for a speedy recovery. Hugs Janie Sweet, Feel better fast! Huggs, Lisa Erica Sweet you and your Family are in our Thoughts and Prayers for a Speedy Recovery Rena& Sage All the best for a fast recovery Sweet....our thoughts are with you! sincerely Patty Cakes Sweet, I wish you all the best for a speedy recovery....our thoughts are with you! sincerely Karen North I am so sorry to hear that you are not feeling well. Please get better sweetie, I need your loving heart. You have helped me each and every time that we talk. Here's to seeing you back in the loving arms of all of your friends. Hugs and kisses, Nicki DaCosta Sweet, you are a very special lady. Recover well my Sweet friend and come back to us when you are ready. Julie Marie Moriarty

Perhaps we can come up with a plan to support Sweet on GenderEvolve and share it with this group as well. I am sending out positive, healing thoughts for Sweet. Take care. My best wishes go out Felicia to Sweet. Hugs, Jessi Dear Sweet, Sweet, Get well soon Hope you're feeling better soon! Rauncie and Jade Hugs, Tiny Tina Dear Sisters of Pretty TGirls, Please take a few moments right now to pray for Sweet, who suffered a stroke and is temporarily paralyzed on her left side. Send her love and light, while envisioning her in perfect health once again. Despite knowing she will recover, I must tell you this is really quite serious. Sweet is a true sister who constantly helps us and others, and she now needs our healing energy and our love. Please send forth your prayers and invocations to assist in Sweet's full recovery. Miracles happen every day, let's do our part to make it Sweet's turn!! Thank you to all, Love & Light Michèle

I've known sweet for quite awhile and love that woman with all my heart. She will be in my prayers and thoughts . With Love Pretty TGirls Magazine - November 2006 Miss Opal Gemstone

My prayers go out to Sweet and her family.... I LOVE YOU GIRL!!!! -Chloe For me, I need a visual image to anchor my well wishes. It shows a picture of her in top health. If you look at the picture, then close your eyes, and imagine her in this healthy state, I'm sure your wishes will come true. Special-leigh if we all do t for just a minute or two every day!!! Be well, Sweet! Be well, Sweet! Be well, Sweet! Thanks, Leigh Smythe

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An Interview With Jessica Leigh

Question: When did you first start crossdressing? Jessica: I was six years old and attending kindergarten at the time. Having just realized my confusion as a little boy, I found solace in trying on my mother's L'eggs pantyhose she'd hang over the bathroom shower curtain rod to dry. The yearning to express and develop my femininity became overwhelmingly important as it seemed to be to the other girls I came in close contact with, during my adolescence.

Question: Describe your early experiences dressing as a girl. Jessica: Establishing the connection with my own femininity at such a young age was instantaneously gratifying, very comforting, and seemingly natural. As I grew older and became more aware of my inherent need to become a woman, dressing en femme was part of my everyday routine and basically an afterthought, rather than a primary objective.

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An Interview With Jessica Leigh ... continued

Question: At what age did you start using make-up and wearing wigs? How did you learn how to apply make up? Any tips for other TGirls? Brand of make up you use? Jessica: I began experimenting with makeup when I was seven years old; approximately a year after I started secretly wearing my mother's panties and pantyhose. I remember not being good at applying it at all until I was a bit older and able to practice on an everyday basis. It became very important for me to master the latest makeup application trends and techniques that were

featured in all the latest fashion magazines back then. If I had to suggest one tip for other girls, it would be that applying less makeup is much better than applying too much. Practice modern techniques as I had, and you'll better understand how to turn a potential Tammy Faye Baker nightmare into your own perfectly flattering signature look. I hadn't purchased a wig until 1996. I had worn them only because they provide a more feminine, finished look. I generally find them to be uncomfortably weighty, sweaty and itchy. Although I own about five of them presently and have worn them for approximately ten years, I am very reluctant to wear them at all; now that I'm in transition and allowing my own hair to grow out to a long length and style.

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An Interview With Jessica Leigh ... continued

As for my makeup, I prefer to use the following: ·Maybelline concealer and eyebrow & eyeliner pencils ·Cover Girl powder-smooth foundation, eye shadows, blush, and face powder ·Revlon lip liners & lipsticks

Question: If you had your choice, what do like wearing the most when being a girl? Jessica: I prefer wearing a pair of slacks or longish skirt; low heels or cute slides; subtly-sexy lycraspandex tops and tasteful feminine blouses... whatever the latest conservative women's trends dictate. I study the general female public each change of season that match my body size and type to take note of the apparel they wear that remain consistent from one `like' woman to the next. I gauge my purchases on that basic principle, because as a transsexual woman, I want to blend in with the populous; not stand out like a sore thumb.

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An Interview With Jessica Leigh ... continued

Question: Now a bit of personal information ... What is your marital status? A sensitive area for some girls, but ... how old are you now? Does anyone know you are a TGirl? What country do you live in? Jessica: I've been married now for over 13 years (although we've been together for almost 20 years). I'm presently forty years old with another birthday cake coming up for me on Veteran's Day. I was born and raised in Forest Hills (Queens), New York USA and moved my family here to Spring Hill, FL (40 miles north of Tampa) in 2001 for quality-of-life reasons.

Since revealing my true female identity and nearfuture plans to my families (can't forget the inlaws) and close friends back in January of this year, the frightful stigma of revelation has now become sort of a non-issue, quite frankly. I'd even go as far as saying that it's now become somewhat annoying to have to summarize the entire saga for individuals that are still not in-theknow. Then, after my tired old story, comes their Q&A forum; where it sometimes seems as though they hadn't understood or listened to a damn word you've just spent the last hour or more explaining to them... ugh!

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An Interview With Jessica Leigh ... continued

I've chosen not to bother anymore, really. I've grown tired of telling my story over & over again. They may either accept me as a woman, or dismiss me from their lives; entirely... it's ultimately their choice. I refuse to lose any more sleep over it.

Question: Have you ever gone out as a girl? If so, tell us what the first time is like and how you feel being out in the world as a girl. Jessica: Yes, and I was petrified! LOL! I'm sure I looked frightful to anyone who stopped to take notice of me. I remember it took me twenty minutes or more to summon up the courage just to pull out of the driveway in my car in the hopes that none of my neighbours noticed it was me; driving away. My heart was beating at an incredibly fast rate, but putting aside my peaking vital statistics, I was happy to finally venture out and break though the barrier of my silly fears. Question: Have you ever gone through a purge of your female clothing? If so, can you tell us why? How did it make you feel? How long before you went back to being a girl? Jessica: Yes, I have... once. It was back in March of 2001, as we were packing up to move from New York to Florida. Our first and only child was seven months old at the time, and I had decided I was going to try to start over with my commitment to living as a `normal' male, husband and father. I felt I owed them both a comfort level they deserved with total disregard to my own needs and strong feelings of femininity.

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An Interview With Jessica Leigh ... continued

I know; how stupid of me... Like so many others; I thought I could just ignore those feelings and they would eventually just go away permanently. What a joke! And what a waste! I kick myself every time I get ready to go out to an appointment, and I realize how perfectly one or more of those purged items would've looked with my outfit... or I wish I still had that nylon slip to wear under this skirt... Cripes! Talk about learning your valuable lesson over and over and over again! Anyway, it wasn't even three months after we moved into our new Florida home that I began purchasing new wardrobe items and accessories. Presently, I'd say that 85% of all my clothes are female articles. Question: What percentage of time do you spend as a girl? Jessica: Aesthetically speaking; I'd say: 80% female / 20% cross-dressed female in men's clothes. In all other aspects; 100% female. I don't ever `feel' to be anything but female anymore. I guess it's different for me as a transsexual woman who will fully transition through GRS (or even those like me who will not have GRS), as opposed to the average cross-dresser. I think that, to most cross dressers, wearing female attire is more of an exciting and stimulating event or end result. To me, it's not even a conscious thought; it's simply me getting dressed for the day. It holds no stimulation or thrill, whatsoever for me; maybe just more choices of what to wear, perhaps... ;) Question: Have you ever considered moving towards becoming more of a girl physically with options like hormones, feminisation surgery, breast enhancements, or SRS? Jessica: That's where I am, today. I've been on HRT since late January 2006; I'm having [facial] laser hair removal done now, and also plan on having my nose fixed by the end of this year. I'm beginning RLT as soon as I'm hired in a new job (I'm currently applying as a female). As soon as I legally qualify for GRS by October of 2007, I will have the surgery as soon as I can secure an appointment with Dr. Pierre Brassard in Montreal, CN.

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An Interview With Jessica Leigh ... continued

Question: Do you feel more like a boy or a girl now and why? Jessica: I've never felt like a male. I've only studied other heterosexual men and did my best to emulate their mannerisms, attitudes, expectations, and points of view. I've learned that pretending (or trying) to be someone you're not is a waste of time and a horrible tragedy, to say the very least. Trying to balance two completely separate sexual identities is mentally exhausting and virtually impossible to sanely maintain all one's life. Question: Have you ever dated or wanted to date another TGirl or a man? Jessica: No, I've never dated another TGirl, nor am I interested in ever doing so. Yes, I have always been attracted to well-built, hunky, handsome straight men all my life. Along the way, and out of necessity in achieving and maintaining an outwardly faux male persona, I had acquired a great appreciation and strong sexual desire for other genetic, pretty, feminine-looking women, as well. To be concise, I am not interested in a sexually romantic relationship with a gay man, masculine woman, or another TGirl. Question: Do you have any advice for other TGirls, especially ones that have yet to venture out as a girl? Jessica: Yes. Don't ever be afraid to listen to and be led by your inner-voice. Try not to be secretive about your feelings; no matter how embarrassed or confused you might feel about them at the time. God made us all individually unique for a very good reason, so please don't waste his/her good, purposeful work.

Question: How is your life now as a TGirl? What's gone well and not so well? Jessica: Life as a woman has become more liberating and joyful than I could ever express in words or even emotions. There is no question whatsoever as to whether or not I should have been born 100% female, instead of only 75%. I have never been as happy in my life as I am at this point in time... And it only gets better from here. I have no regrets at all.

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An Interview With Jessica Leigh ... continued

Question: Anything else you'd like to say? Jessica: Those who you love, and who truly love you in return, will stay with you; right by your side, for the duration. Those who don't will reveal themselves to you and proceed to fade into obscurity. You will find new levels of self-respect and respect for others. You will utilize and enjoy deeper pools of tolerance, love, and overall happiness. You will probably grow more as an individual throughout your transition as you have at any other point in your entire life.

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Pretty TGirl Members Then and Now - Laura Coral was last (Photos of how we looked when first dressing as a girl and how we look today) Chrissy Jessica Leigh Then Today Then Today

Kristina Then Today Then

Tamara-Amalia Today

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Editor's Corner ­ Rachel Pastel

Personal Website: http://rachelpastel.com

Welcome to our issue for November 2006! We still need magazine contributors. Would you like your very own monthly column? Have a story about your experiences as a TGirl? Are you a member of a TG group and would like to tell us about it? Can you put together a TG-related crossword puzzle each month? Really, we will consider anything TG-related that is tasteful, so if you can contribute, please email me at [email protected] . I would especially love to have a GG or two to have a column and write about their feelings on Transgenderism.

Have you ever doubted yourself as a TGirl? Ever thought to yourself, "I am going to give this up and be normal "? Struggling a bit with the duality of Transgenderism? Trust me, we all have had these feelings at some point. Don't give up on yourself ! Being a TGirl is normal. Our feminine feelings and desires have roots to childhood and can be temporarily denied or ignored, but they will come back. Therapists no longer try to "cure" this situation, they teach girls how to deal with it. There are thousands and thousands of TGirls ... we are very special people. Take pride in who you are and, yes, take pride in being a part or full time girl. I encourage you to read this edition of Patty's Powder Room ... very well done by Patty and some terrific thoughts!

If you haven't already, and you are a Transgendered Girl, please take a moment to take my TG Survey. The survey is located at ... http://rachelpastel.com/survey/survey.php?s_id=1

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Editor's Corner ­ Rachel Pastel

Personal Website: http://rachelpastel.com

In a quick format, below is a summary of the survey results as of October 19th, 2006 with 598 TGirls taking the survey so far. Most considered themselves Crossdressers (49%), with Tgirl being 2nd (26%). The biggest age group is 49-54 (26%). Most starting dressing in girl's clothes between 5-10 years old (52%), with 11-16 being 2nd (36%). Most are married (56%) with children (66%). Most do not smoke (64%), but most do drink at least some of the time (74%). Most are from the U.S. (83%), with the UK being 2nd (6%) ... 25 countries represented. If from the U.S., most are living in NY (9%) with CA being 2nd (8%). Most have attended college (86%) with an income between $40,001 to $70,000 (33%). Most have both brothers and sisters (38%) and are the oldest child (36%). By far (83%), most have a stronger relationship with their Mother. 54% are bi-sexual and 44% are heterosexual. By far (87%), most have gone out as a girl. Most spend 0-10% of their time dressed as a girl (41%) with 11-30% being 2nd (28%). Most (72%) have fantasized about going out with a guy when dressed as a girl. Most have not (69%) actually dated a guy when dressed as a girl. 91% said they found other Tgirls attractive. Most (29%) said panties were the first female clothing worn with nylons being 2nd (24%). Most (53%) said the first lingerie they wore was their Mother's with their sister's being 2nd (23%). Most (55%) find wearing lingerie sexually exciting. While dressed as a girl, 27% have kissed another Tgirl, 267 have kissed their significant other, and 27% said they have kissed a guy. 57% said they feel more like a woman than a man. Most (45%) have considered or are taking female hormones. By a slim margin (52% yes to 48% no), most have not considered some sort of feminization surgery or modification with pierced ears leading the way, laser hair removal being 2nd, and breast implants being 3rd.

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Editor's Corner ­ Rachel Pastel

Personal Website: http://rachelpastel.com

Survey Results Continued Most (57%) are happy as a TGirl. 57% do not feel accepted as a girl with 43% feeling accepted. 77% have told a non-TG person about being a TGirl. Most (53%) have a significant other who knows about them being a TGirl. Most (46%) have purged their female wardrobe several times. 25% said they wear panties when in non-girl mode under their male clothes. 87% are members of some internet-based TG group. Most (69%) are not members of a TG group that has actual meetings. Most (50%) think they are passable as a girl at least sometimes. 72% said that being a TGirl hasn't caused any break-up of a relationship. Most (67%) said they haven't been ridiculed when dressed as a girl. 78% have spoken to a non-TG person while dressed as a girl. 59% have not felt in danger while dressed as a girl (42% have though). 47% have been asked out on a date by a guy while dressed as a girl. 42% have a GG (genetic girl) in their life who accepts them as a TGirl. Of the TGirls who go to work dressed as a girl, the slight majority are not accepted. 22% feel being a TGirl is not a choice, but is part of who they are. Most are right in the middle of the scale as to how attractive they feel they are as girls and how confident they are that society will eventually accept them. For transforming into a girl, the most popular steps are: make-up, earrings, shave legs, put on a wig, and use silicone breast forms/enhancers. For lingerie, the most popular are: bra, panties, pantyhose/thigh highs, camisole, garter belt, and teddy. For outerwear, the most popular are: a dress, a blouse and a knee-length skirt. Most (35%) like to dress according to where they are going with dressing in order to blend in being 2nd.

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Editor's Corner ­ Rachel Pastel

Personal Website: http://rachelpastel.com

Some of the general comments from those who have taken the survey:

A desire that is always there. The level of desire varies from time to time. Purging has never been a solution. The desire always returns and seems to be more intense. I love feeling femme and transforming myself I would not change a thing even if I could I love what i do, but i wish that i was able to spend more time that way. I feel that the more time i spent dressed, the more confidant i would be, thus increasing my passability No matter what attire you may wear, a t-girl is a woman at heart. I believe I think and feel as a girl. I love to dress as a girl and feel that way. I feel 100% better when dressed as a girl and can relate to other as a girl. I just wish that society would accept T-girls. I love it. I am a collector of formal gowns (wedding, prom, bridesmaids) and enjoy wearing them all. I dress like a normal female for my age, leaning towards the business professional look, or the current trends. I wouldn't change a thing about being a T-Girl All I've ever wanted in this painful lonely lifetime is to be soundly whole in mind, body, spirit and soul; whether it be as a man or a woman. To be born afflicted with GID is to never know the peace in life that other normal people have been blessed with at birth. For me, there is no thrill in wearing makeup, dresses and heels. It's as natural as daily beard-shaving is to a man. This has been a 40-year long living hell for me, and a life-long crusade to become a fully congruent, happy, well-adjusted human being. Society doesn't understand we are not sexual deviants . We are the product of our maker . from brain wiring to a gene pool that has many varieties . My wife puts it well , Your so special , to bad the rest of the world doesn't know or understand. I wish I could come out of the closet but am afraid to. It's a very lonely existence. As far as keeping any kind of long term relationships. Its also the liberating at the same time. There is so much ignorance within the more intelligent segment of Society. Understanding the word Acceptance is paramount. I just like being myself and no one can take that away from me...i love being a t-girl.

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Patty's Powder Room By Patty Cakes This month I am in a very reflective mood once again. So when that happens it means I won't be focusing on shaving tips or the like. Don't get me wrong, I could have saved many nicks with good information on shaving techniques so I do believe in the value of passing on information. However I am once again heading into the deeper end of the pool. If you are not afraid, come on in the water is fine!

I was thinking back through my life in the last while about some of the most impacting times I have had and all of the changes I have gone through. Times when I actually went through a stage in my life that altered the way I looked at things, Where I went through either a physical, emotional, psychological or spiritual change, a change that enabled me to think or act differently from that moment on. For many of us dressing was a significant time perhaps a defining moment in our lives where we have never looked back as it maybe acknowledged something we felt deep inside of us. It became a turning point. Turning points can be extremely enlightening or challenging depending on your perspective. I have recently reviewed my work/life history having experienced so many different things from starting out my life working in a process factory to working my way up the corporate ladder and owning my own business with at one point over 86 employees and several offices. My choice of vocation these days is to be self employed with no employees involved in a variety of different things from entertainment to consulting and many things in between, things that I enjoy doing and that I enjoy making a living at. I eventually arrived to where I am at now after having experienced a number of "defining moments". I realize that these "defining moments" have really been the key to my growth and self development throughout my life. The internet describes "Defining Moment(s)" as ­ Point of no return, breakthrough, crucial moment, climax, moment of truth, decisive moment, turning point, critical juncture, crossroads or a pivotal point. Thinking on this line of thought further, what if we could actually create or accelerate the number of "defining moments" we have in any given period of time or over a lifetime? Would that enable us all to experience self awareness and growth faster? Could we expand our capabilities and capacities far beyond where they are? Imagine the possibilities.......breakthroughs happening at a faster rate than ever before in out individual lives.

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Patty's Powder Room ... Continued By Patty Cakes

First of all though, we would need to have the desire in the first place to want to have more defining moments or breakthroughs in our lives. Assuming that is true, where would one even begin to try and "create" a defining moment? I mean, don't they just happen? Isn't it something out of the realm of our control? The short answer is you can wait for them to happen, if they happen, OR you can go looking for them and place yourself in a position of opportunity where they are most likely going to happen OR simply just focus on them one at a time and take positive actions to make them happen. Let's take an example of a person that are reaching the point of realizing that they are a crossdresser and that it is not just a passing fancy. You know - someone who loves to wear clothes of the opposite sex and actually experiences feeling very comfortable and at home in that mode. We'll assume that they have never gone any further than dressing secretly at home carefully hiding all there femme attire and accessories where they can't be found. They spend late night hours chatting behind the screen of a personal computer on internet. In fact, this is their only lifeline out to the TG world. This is how they live their secret life, talking and reading stories of others that actually go out enfemme shopping and to meetings with other CD's wishing they could also do such things. But alas they are fearful to go further. I bet a lot of ideas come to mind as to how they could accelerate their "defining moments". Here are just a few ideas: ·They could first make a decision in their minds to go further with their dressing desires to attain some form of self satisfaction or happiness ·They could spend some time considering next steps and perhaps where the future could take them ·They could meet with a TG that they meet online for coffee so that they could talk in person to someone who felt the same way even in boy mode ·They could find a TG friendly yahoo group that holds private and secure monthly meetings and that offered change facilities so they could go meet, dress and be with other like minded individuals ·They could find and attend a TG conference that is supportive and offers programs for newbie's to crossdressing ·They could find a TG friendly makeup artist to get a makeover or take makeup application lessons ·They could go further and start a journey of talking to their significant other about their true enjoyment of dressing ·They could decide to even go further than all of this and arrive at the place where they can just be themselves

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Patty's Powder Room ... Continued By Patty Cakes

All of the above could be considered defining moments albeit they are at all different levels. So what is the key to achieving more defining moments? The first key step is to make a decision in some way shape or form. This decision needs to be binary, on or off, yes or no, go forward or stop because to reach a defining moment there isn't much room for any grey areas. You either do something or you don't. The risk is if you don't try doing something you will never know what was around the corner. If you do take action and do something you will move forward and if nothing else learn from having an experience of some kind. It could place you in a position or having a truly defining moment also. We'll say you make a decision to venture out from behind the computer screen and actually join a yahoo group and attend a TG meeting of some kind. It will be like be set free! Now imagine adapting this philosophy to everything you do in life, making faster decisions in the moment so that you can experience more and live life to its fullest that could be quite enlightening if done with a positive attitude. You can do it!! So why do I write all of this? I guess because I chat, meet and observe some that seem to have gotten stuck somewhere along the way in their own personal journey. There seem to be a number of individuals that get to a certain point and just don't know what to do to go further and not because they are not smart but because maybe they are not confident on how to deal with this change in their lives. In fact some go through the major "purge" activities at some point to try and reverse everything only to find that they start up again after some period of time. Then the journey begins all over slowly making its way along. It's been said many times that we should enjoy the journey and that it is not all about the destination because that implies reaching the end. So if we are to enjoy the journey it could also mean that we should consider making decisions that will accelerate our personal development and just maybe these decisions will allow us to experience some defining moments, breakthroughs or turning points. Once again, I hope that someone, somewhere out their in internet land reads this article and it makes a difference by encouraging them to take affirmative action to seek out their own defining moments. Hopefully they will experience the internal calm that can come with reaching another level as I have over the past several years. I look forward to the rest of my journey and hope to meet some of you along the way. Once again it's Patty signing out for this edition of the powder room. Please email me with any of your thoughts and feedback to [email protected] Cheers, Patty

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The Real Truth About Crossdressing

By Ellen Sherman, as published in Selfhelp Magazine http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/articles/sex/xdress.html

Every Fall, several hundred traditional husbands, fathers and businessmen come together in Provincetown for Fantasia Fair with parties, seminars and workshops exploring the thorny issue of how to buy the right wig and hide a 5 o'clock shadow with the foundation and blush-on. Heterosexual married men from suburbia with families who cross-dress? What's going on? Apparently a much more common practice than most people would imagine. It's estimated that at least %1 of the male population crossdresses. And even as we approach the 21st Century, the idea of a heterosexual man in heels is still more than a little threatening. And confusing even for the crossdressers themselves. As JoAnn Roberts, founder of Renaissance, a Delaware Valley crossdressing support group of over 400 said" I knew growing up that I wasn't gay and I was heterosexual. I thought I might be crazy, but I knew I wasn't gay." Crossdressing is a subject that's been universally misunderstood. While producing the first documentary on heterosexual crossdressing called All Dressed Up And No Place To Go, I found a host of misconceptions rampant in most people's thinking. The following are the Top Eleven Misconceptions that abound: 1) Crossdressers Are Gay More than likely not. As Dr. William Stayton, Head of the University of Pennsylvania's Department of Human Sexuality and himself a therapist for crossdressers, reported "People associate crossdressing with effeminacy and being gay and the fact is most of them are not gay. They are very definitely heterosexual. "In fact one of the most difficult areas for crossdressers was how to deal with the women with whom they wanted to be involved.

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The Real Truth About Crossdressing ... continued

By Ellen Sherman, as published in Selfhelp Magazine http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/articles/sex/xdress.html

2) Crossdressers Don't Like Women The truth is that rather than shying away from women, most crossdressers are as married or looking for a relationship as any cross section of men in America. "There is even some advantage to being a heterosexual crossdresser," says Dr. Stayton. "When dressed they often become more sensitive and understanding to the women in their lives. Their wives tend to find them delightful and often it can become a real enhancement to marital relations." However that "enhancement" can only come if the woman feels comfortable with her husband's occasional dressing. Many don't. As Florida lawyer Jeff/Jean reports, "What would happen was that as soon as women found out about "Jean" the relationship would end, so why did I have to keep banging myself in the head. I was married to a woman that didn't approve and it was painful. Now I tell the women and let them even see "Jean." If we're going to be involved then they'll have to accept all of me just like I have to accept all of them." 3) Women Who Love Crossdressers Must Be Lesbians What's it like to love a man who's wearing a dress? Pam, the wife of a Bank V.P crossdresser recounts "I did feel funny at first. I love my husband as a man but when I saw him in a dress as "Barbara," I thought how can I love him? The answer was I didn't have to love him the same way. With "Barbara," we're friends like I would be with any girlfriend. When he's dressed as a man, I feel free to love him as a man." 4) Crossdressers Dress For Sexual Gratification Most crossdressers reveal that relieving stress and relaxation were the feelings they most associated with their crossdressing. However many revealed that while teenagers there was a high degree of sexual excitement related to crossdressing mostly relieved through masturbation. As hormones calmed down and they reached adulthood the sexual element declined and the feelings the crossdressing elicited were very different." What you'll find," Dr. Stayton reported, "is that very early on they associate these clothes with relaxation and stress relieval. They often use it to feel calmer. There is an erotic element to the crossdressing. Many will crossdress or fantasize about being CD to enhance sexual enjoyment, but its not necessary."

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The Real Truth About Crossdressing ... continued

By Ellen Sherman, as published in Selfhelp Magazine http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/articles/sex/xdress.html

5) Crossdressers Always Wear Women's Clothes In fact, most may only dress once a month or once every six months. Many men don't ever even reach the point of fully dressing but feel the same relaxed feeling by just wearing women's undies under their suits. "You can't imagine how many politicians can't give a speech in Congress without wearing women's panties," Dr. Stayton commented, adding he has first hand knowledge since many are his patients. 6) Crossdressers Have Weird Sexual Habits No more than most. However crossdressers did report their sex lives were enhanced by crossdressing to some degree. "Dale" recounted that "Although many CDs will deny it, there is a degree of extra arousal that comes with being crossdressed when making love but many women are not comfortable with that and we men have to be sensitive to that and accept it." 7) Crossdressers Look Like RuPaul In fact many crossdressers are most comfortable dressing their " femme " selves as they would dress their male selves. Therefore most conventions of crossdressers find a roomful of men in dressed for success women's suits, low heels, tasteful makeup and coifed hair...much more Margaret Thatcher than RuPaul. 8) Crossdressing Develops in Adulthood "We really find that crossdressing starts very young," reports Dr. Stayton. "Many remember that as preschoolers they got a certain feeling with Mom's clothing. It's very rarely something that develops in adulthood. 9) Crossdressers Are Made, Not Born The current conventional wisdom seems to be that crossdressing is a result of both Nature and Nurture. "I certainly think there's a genetic influence just as for all of us there are things that happen that program us as to how we'll be sexual, whether we'll like redheads or thin women. We all have preferences, but the truth is there's no common thread and we really don't know why it happens," reports Dr.Stayton.

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The Real Truth About Crossdressing ... continued

By Ellen Sherman, as published in Selfhelp Magazine http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/articles/sex/xdress.html

10) Crossdressers Are Schizophrenic In reality crossdressers exhibit slight personality alterations in their "femme" role, but in general, their personalities only change to the extent that many people's do when assuming different roles in life, i.e. CEO, husband, father. One wife reports her husband likes to dance as his "femme" self where he wouldn't feel that free as a man. Other wives recount how their husbands will shop with them when otherwise they'd never have the patience. 11) Crossdressing Can Be Cured "Truth is you can't change it," Dr. Stayton concludes. Most professionals now try to counsel the crossdresser to deal with his crossdressing rather than eradicate it. "When someone comes to me and feels it's sick behavior, then to me helping them to be healthy is to help them accept it and to be able to appropriately accept their own crossdressing feelings."

5/28/98 For more information: All Dressed Up And No Place To Go, the first feature documentary on heterosexual crossdressing. Now Available in home video Contact: CAJUN FILMS-212-353-0500/FAX 212-533-0710 36 East 2Oth Street, NY, NY 10011

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VISITING A TG-FRIENDLY SPOT EACH MONTH TGBy Kathryn Hughes

KATHY'S KORNER

A note from Rachel Pastel ... While there will not be a "Kathy's Korner" any longer, I personally want to thank Kathy for all she has done with Pretty TGirls Magazine and for being a terrific friend! Kathy is going to Florida to care for an ailing relative and is also transitioning to a full time girl. My personal best wishes to Kathy and hope that she will join us again at a later time.

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TG Conventions by Leigh Smythe

A TG convention, or event near you?! Hi, girls. This month I want to follow up on the TG conventions. I would appreciate any help that any of you can give on any events that I am missing, please email me with a link. <help - help> My target was to find conferences or events that were more than just a weekend, but some here are just that, because they're major events. If you check in on these websites, they often have information on what happened at this years event, along with the information on the upcoming year. And if there is a yahoo group associated with that conference, please email me that link, too. As you know, I was able to attend 2 of these events and had an absolute-leigh wonderful time at both. I saw one report from a TGirl that felt alone and had a difficult time making friends. That is real-leigh unfortunate. I'm so sorry that that happened. I found that, when I was alone, all I had to do is go over to a couple of girls and start a conversation. This was always received with the greatest of friendliness. All those attending are nervous, excited, or, general-leigh, open to the experience. It is realleigh easy to make friends, in my experience. Anyone who can find a conference or event near you...... GO!! I would be so bold as to say you will never regret it. The fruit is there for the plucking!!! Sept. 1 - 4, 2006 FtM 2006: A Gender Odyssey for masculine-identified people who were assigned female gender at birth. Celebrating our 5th year of serving the international Transgender FTM (female bodied/male identified) community http://www.transconference.org/

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TG Conventions ... Continued by Leigh Smythe October 15 - 22, 2006 Fantasia Fair No information is available for the 2007 event, as yet. Fantasia Fair fun and educational transgender workshops in Provincetown, Massachusetts. http://www.fantasiafair.org/ Oct 29 - Nov 5, 2006 TG Dignity Cruise Join Dr. Peggy Rudd and Melanie for the TG convention at Sea & Halloween Fantasy. http://www.pmpub.com/cruise30.htm October 27 - 29, 2006 Transcending Boundaries Conference is for bisexual/pansexual, trans/genderqueer, and intersex people and our allies. The PFLAG Northeast Regional Conference in Worcester, MA. http://www.transcendingboundaries.org/ November 3 - 5, 2006 Fall Harvest Convention for all transgender individuals and Nebraska. http://www.fallharvest.net/

significant others in Omaha

November 13-19, 2006 Our eighth annual Lake Erie Gala is at the Quality Inn in Erie. Lake Erie Gala Transgender Gala hosted by Erie Sisters in Erie, Pennsylvania. http://www.eriesisters.org//GALA1.html

January 27, 2007 Cotillion 2007 in San Francisco, CA. Regency Center Grand Ballroom 1290 Sutter St., San Francisco, CA Tickets: $25, $35, $45 and $55 http://www.tgsf.org/events/cotillion.html

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TG Conventions ... Continued by Leigh Smythe February 22 - 25, 2007 Colorado Gold Rush is a national transgendered conference will be held at the Red Lion Hotel Denver Central, 4040 Quebec St., Denver, CO. http://www.gicofcolo.org/cgr/ April 9-15, 2007 The 21st conference of the IFGE will be held at the Philadelphia Airport Hilton, Philadelphia, PA. http://www.transeventsusa.org/ifge/index.shtml April 23 - 28, 2007 Diva Las Vegas is having their 10th anniversary, Las Vegas, Nevada, USA. for the TG community, friends and family. http://www.geekbabe.com/dlv/dlv2007/ May 13 - 22, 2007 Espirit, 2007 - The Pacific Northwest's transgender convention in Port Angeles, Washington. Held at Red Lion Hotel, on the waterfront in Port Angeles. http://www.espritconf.com/index.php May 29th - June 3, 2007 Be-All 2007, the 25th year will be a special celebration held at the Double Tree Hotel, just minutes from O¢Hare Airport, in Chicago, Illinois. http://be-all.org/

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TG Conventions ... Continued by Leigh Smythe

June 22 - 24, 2007 Sparkle, 2007 - held in Manchester, England. http://sparkle.org.uk/sparkle_2007.htm Sept. 11 - 16, 2007 Southern Comfort Conference - TG seminars, held at the Sheridan Colony Square Hotel, the 17th annual comference featuring workshops and nightlife held in Atlanta, Georgia. http://www.sccatl.org/ October 25 -29, 2007 Eureka! En Femme Getaway Elegant, relaxing transgender vacation in Eureka Springs, Arkansas, at Basin Park Hotel. http://femmegetaway.com/eventsfall.html Blessing-leigh, Leigh Smythe

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http://www.genderevolve.com The following is a publication found on GenderEvolve. My thanks to Michele Angelique for her permission to use valuable TG information found on GenderEvolve!

The Inside Image?

(by Lauren Thomas) A believable image, is how we want to see ourselves and how we want others see us. Whether we are parttime or full-time, each of us tries to create an image that is believable to us, the people we meet, as well as those who only see our image on the Internet. Just how important is our image anyway? For most of us creating a believable image is very important, and is probably the first thing we begin to work on; and also the one thing we work on the most. Creating a believable image is probably the most important part of being Transgendered, regardless of who you are. And for those who actually live full or part-time, creating a believable image is probably more of a real necessity, because they must interact with people face to face. Also, if you have a presence on the Internet a believable image is what really attracts the attention of others. For most of us creating an image takes time and work, and in some cases there are some medical procedures to help us along. Our image is usually base on our own perception of what is believable, and hopefully those who see our image will feel the same. I call this the "Outside" image, the image that people see in the real world, or on the Internet. If you spend anytime on the Internet viewing the different personal web sites, profiles, and TG listings you will see lots of believable images. So, you might agree that we do spend a lot of time trying to create a believable image. Most of these believable images come from hard work and experience, while a few are the result of photoshop, or are downright fakes. If you have a presence on the Internet then you probably have an email address and if you have a believable image, then you probably receive a lot of emails from total strangers. Most likely these emails will be filled with compliments, and getting lots of compliments may improve your confidence, or at the least make you feel good about the image you have created or achieved.

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The Inside Image? (continued) ... by Lauren Thomas

If you want even more exposure, you can enter contests for GOTM, or get involved with rating systems where your judged and compared to others. There's nothing wrong with rating systems and contest, as they are fun and most of us don't take them seriously. Personally, I rate everyone a "10", and if it's a contest, I vote for someone I know who has probably contacted me in advance and asked me to vote for them. Or, I just pick the person who in my opinion has the most believable image. While most of us probably accept the email compliments, ratings, and contests in stride, and enjoy them for what there worth; I suppose there are some that actually live for this kind of attention because for them this truly validates the believable image that they have created or achieved. I can imagine that there some people that have a believable image, but are so arrogant and self-centered, that the feelings of others really don't matter to them. They are so caught up in themselves and their believable image, that they must have constant validation, and not getting what they want makes them frustrated and angry inside. This brings me to say, that one problem I find with the Internet at least when it concerns a believable image, is that normally all we see is the "Outside" image. As believable as these images may appear, we really don't know what the person is like on the inside; unless we have the opportunity to interact with that person and really get to know them. The Internet is filled with believable images, some of which are just incredible! However, how many of those believable or incredible outside images match up, or come close to what is on the inside, "The Inside Image"? Lauren

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TG-Friendly Places To Go Ok, you're a TGirl and you want to go out as a girl, but want to go to a TG-friendly place. Here are some suggestions offered by our members. We take no responsibility regarding the places listed, but they are or have been known to be accepting of TGirls.

This is in process with places to be listed in future editions. If you know of places in the U.S. that are TG-friendly, please let me know at [email protected] Thanks!

State

OH

Name

Designs by Victoria

Address

5712 Detroit Ave. Cleveland 85 Water St. Haverhill 79 Broadway St. Boston 21 Brookline St. Cambridge 678 Maple Ave. Hartford 458 Wethersfield Ave. - Hartford 66 Sugar Hollow Rd. - Danbury 1312 S. Highland St. - Columbus

Phone

216-961-7324

Website/Comments

Clothing store and hosts TG parties http://www.friendslanding.com http://www.jacquesc abaret.com http://www.manrayc lub.com

MA

Friend's Landing

978-374-9400

MA

Jacques

617-426-8902

MA

Manray

617-964-0400

CT

The Polo Club

860-278-333

CT

Chez Est

860-525-3243

CT

Triangles Cafe

203-798-6996

http://www.triangles cafe.com Hosts Miss TGirl Ohio contest

OH

Somewhere Else

614-443-4300

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Upcoming TG Events

http://www.trans-mission.org

·SATURDAY 2 DECEMBER It's not Christmas quite yet, so don't get all festive. Come and be furtive instead at the Masque Bar. ·SATURDAY 6 JANUARY Start 2007 with a bang! Every month is a party at TransMISSION but none more-so than January when the new year brings out the party in everyone. ·SATURDAY 3 FEBRUARY Valentine's Day is almost upon us so give your partner what they want most... You. In your sexiest underwear. And a night out at Trans-MISSION :: London!

http://www. masquerade.ca/

Located in "Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada", we are a Social Club for Crossdressers, the Transgendered, and their Wives/Girlfriends! Where... - BOYS have FUN being GIRLS!! Our next Program & Social Evening is 7:30 PM on Tuesday, November 14, 2006 Program - Rescheduled from September, our guest speaker is from Nine Circles Resource Centre Dressing Theme - "Fall Fashions" Makeup/Dressing Tip - Getting a close shave for your face and legs! Plus - Magazine Swap & Attendance Draw! ** Wives/Girlfriends are welcome to attend our Programs & Social Evenings and other Events**

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Upcoming TG Events

http://www.femmefever.com

November 9th 8pm - 12am FemmeFever Party! Private Party; CD's, TG's, TS's, S/O's & Approved Admirers. NOT open to the public. Great People, Bar Service, Full Buffet, Dancing, Contests, DJ, Prizes, etc. Pay there. Always GREAT turnout! Pre-party reduced makeovers by appointment. Come drab/dressed/change there 7pm on. Always a FUN, Friendly, Discreet, well attended PARTY! @ Characters: 419 Great East Neck Road - West Babylon w private entrances (& private bathrooms) to party room. (in case you get lost only 631-661-3234 ). For Party Information or to RSVP: EMAIL Karen or Call: 516-520-0380. Join us, we always have a great time! $25 pay there. Last party we had almost 60 guests! Directions/hotels w your rsvp.

November 19th 7pm The Transgender Day of Remembrance: I urge you to attend this very important "event". Many of us will be there, myself included. All welcome. To remember transgender people & others murdered in hate crimes or committed suicide during 2006. Service,Speakers, Refreshments etc.The service is organized by four of the Transgender groups on Long Island: FemmeFever, Long Island Femme Expressions, Long Island Trans Experience, and Long Island Transgender Advocacy Coalition. The service is non-denominational and without cost. At The Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Huntington; 109 Browns Rd,Huntington NY. More info email: Eileen Thomas

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Upcoming TG Events

TransLiving Parties coming up

Admission fee: non-members £8, non-members partners £5, members £6, members partners £4 Doors open at 7pm and the party ends at mid-night. If you would like to know how to get to the Parties just Click here to view the Map or Click here to find other ways to Contact us.

*If you have any suggestions of themes for 2007 please

email us*

2006

MARCH 24th APRIL 28th MAY 26th JUNE 23rd JULY 28th AUGUST 25th SEPTEMBER 22nd OCTOBER 27th NOVEMBER 24th DECEMBER 8th Maids Night (Working Maids Required For This Evening) TV Brides Be A Celebrity Night (Come As Your Favourite Celeb - Past Or Present!) Transliving 22nd Anniversary (Buffet Included) Summer Frocks Leather And Lace 50's Rock n Roll Night (Teddy Boys And Girls!) Jewellery party Quality Gold/Silver 60% cheaper than shops! Halloween Ball Super Girl - Will You Win The Event Of The Year? Christmas Party with Buffet

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Upcoming TG Events

Welcome to

THE GEMINI CLUB

WHERE BOYS CAN BE GIRLS

http://www.geocities.com/thegeminiclub/home.html

A very special centre for everyone who likes to crossdress A peaceful sanctuary where you can relaxe and be yourself in a safe and descreet environment. No need to dress if your not ready. Just relax and have a chat over a cup of coffee or tea with myself. The Gemini Club has been catering for Transgendered people since 1996 and is run by myself Natalie Conroy (RG) I provide full gender makeovers with a professional touch including make up, the opportunity to try on all various styles and colours of wigs, full range of clothes, lingerie and shoes. in comfortable discreet surroundings. LOCATION GEMINI IS BASED IN THE CENTRE OF DUBLIN CITY, IRELAND Phone Natalie 087 7621869 or use the contact button above to E-Mail [email protected] Usual opening hours are as follows: MONDAY, TUESDAY, FRIDAY 12PM - 6PM WEDNESDAY 12PM - 9PM THURSDAY 2PM - LATE

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Advertisements and Opportunities

Want to advertise your TG-friendly store, service, club, group, or your own personal items here? There is NO charge for this ... just email the editor [email protected] .

http://Glamourboutique.com

http://Glamourboutiquewest.com

The Glamour Boutique is a terrific TG store. The original retail location is in Auburn, MA and now has a Las Vegas retail locations! You can also order online. Can't say enough about this lovely store! A discount is available to Pretty TGirls members and to visitors of my personal website!

http://Crazy4clipons.com

Crazy 4 Clipons is a terrific online place to discreetly buy clip on earrings at a very reasonable price. They have a large variety to choose from and love to have TG customers! A discount is available to Pretty TGirls members and to visitors of my personal website!

http://www.FemmeFever.com

FemmeFever : Karen has developed a wonderful site and TG resource! Along with coordinating many TG events in the lower NY area, she has a store full of shopping opportunities online.

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Advertisements and Opportunities

Want to advertise your TG-friendly store, service, club, group, or your own personal items here? There is NO charge for this ... just email the editor [email protected] .

Austin's Angels ... by Jamie Austin

I can't say enough really terrific things about Jamie. Simply put, he works wonders. Careful though, he has done such a wonderful job that several girls have seen how wonderfully beautiful they can be that they have become full time girls! Jamie offers several different makeover packages ... well worth every penny girls !

http://www.austinsangels.com

http://www. countessascloset.com

This is a fabulous place for GG's and TGirls alike. Countessa is a GG, former model, and a terrific supporter of the Transgendered Community ! There is an online store and a physical location in Studio City, California. More to follow about this great Lady and her offerings.

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Advertisements and Opportunities

Want to advertise your TG-friendly store, service, club, group, or your own personal items here? There is NO charge for this ... just email the editor [email protected] .

http://www.weaveofdreams.com

is a terrific is a very new online TG store carrying many items for us Tgirls.It is run by Carol Deanna. It is worth the visit !

Weave of Dreams

AngelWings Designs by Mary Beth

You really should checkout Mary Beth's products. She hand sews everything and has lovely lingerie items and dresses, plus she is a doll and very supportive of us TGirls !

http://www.angelwingsdesigns.com

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Our Miss November 2006 Cover Girls !

(each girl was given a gift certificate to Countessa's Closet courtesy of Countessa herself!)

How about joining us? We're a tasteful, fun group of girls and we love new friends!

Just go to ... http://groups.yahoo.co m/group/prettytgirls

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