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TeleCoaching Series Coach Dr. Jim

Enjoy The Life You REALLY Want

Using the

Aligned Thinking1 TeleCoaching Series

Module 1 of 8 The Empowerment & Inner Fulfillment Secrets How do I clarify "the riches ­ the values - I REALLY cherish in my personal life?"

Strategic Goal: To identify, achieve and enjoy more of the life ­ the riches ­ the values ­ you REALLY cherish. Tactical Goal: To help you build the habits to do what most people believe impossible:

Align EVERY action to the ­ riches ­ the values ­ you REALLY want from life and work,

so you can enjoy a Quantum Leap in: motivation, accomplishment, satisfaction and lifes meaning and, thereby, Enjoy The Life You REALLY Want for the rest of your life. When this happens, it will make a significant, even profound, difference in your life.

3 Tips To Get The Most Out Of This Call

1. Print this TimeSaver Worksheet so you can take notes and highlight key ideas. Many times for emphasis, _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ will be missing so you can fill them in. Research shows you will remember it longer when you are actively writing or underlining. 2. At the end of the session, make appropriate commitments with clear deadlines to yourself. 3. Immediately after the session, share your commitments with your team.

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Aligned Thinking began many years ago as a time management process. With input from thousands telling what they really wanted and needed, it has matured into a professional/personal action to values management process. Many alumni see it more as a life management process.

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The Title

Early Title The Problem

Getting The Life You REALLY Want. If you get the life you REALLY want, but dont _ _ _ _ _ it, what benefit is that?

The Title Includes

Knowing

To enjoy the life you REALLY want, you must first _ _ _ _ the riches you REALLY want. Module one will help you clarify the riches you REALLY cherish in your personal life; module two, your professional life. To enjoy the riches you REALLY want, you need to focus all your mental and physical energy on _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ these riches. This is the purpose of modules three through seven, with emphasis on _ _ _ your mental and physical energy.

Acquiring

Enjoying

The remaining challenge is not only to enjoy these riches when you acquire them, but the _ _ _ _ _ _ _ of acquiring them. All eight modules, the years follow-up with your Personal Virtual Coach, the Friday audio Success Secrets and especially module eight will help you enjoy the journey of acquiring your riches. The journey has _ _ _ _ _ .

If the only riches you want from your professional life Is money you have _ _ _ _ _ _ _ short-changed yourself!

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Enjoy The Life You REALLY Want Course Overview

To reach our tactical goal: Align _ _ _ _ _ action to the riches you REALLY want from life and work,

We have three huge challenges in the form of three questions.

_ _ _ _ _ _ _ Question

What are the riches I REALLY want from life and work?

_ _ _ _ _ Question

With the many options I have, how do I stay focused on the riches I REALLY want? How do I optimize the riches I get from the only thing I control ­ my action now?

_ _ _ Question

To live the answers to these questions, we need the support of four secrets or insights. Empowerment Secret Where will I get the power, motivation and insights to align EVERY action to the riches I REALLY want? Inner Fulfillment Secret How can I make a Quantum Leap in motivation, accomplishment and satisfaction so I make a Quantum Leap in inner fulfillment and life's meaning at the same time?

Freedom Secret With boss, clients, direct reports, colleagues in business and significant others, children, parents and friends, how can I be free to align EVERY action to the riches I REALLY want?

Celebrate Life Secret With all I have to do, how can I enjoy these riches and make life a 24/7 celebration?

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Aligned Thinking Pyramid

Mod 4

MIN Secret Most Important Now

Now Question How do I optimize the riches I get from the only thing I control ­ my action now? Focus Question With the many options I have, how do I stay focused on the riches I REALLY want? Purpose Question What are the riches I REALLY want from life and work?

Inner Fulfillment Secret Module 1

Empowerment Secret Module 1

Freedom Secret Module 2

Celebration Secret Module 8

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Table of Contents

Pre-program and Bonus #1 ­ See Communication #1

The Critical Basics

Module 1

Purpose Question 1A: How do I clarify the riches I REALLY want from life? Empowerment & Inner Fulfillment Secret

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Module 2

Purpose Question 1B: How do I clarify the riches I REALLY want from work? Freedom Secret - A most critical challenge ­ to be free in all we do ­ Not just Professional/Personal balance, but mutual support. Focus Question: With the many options I have ­ how do I stay focused on the riches I REALLY want? Five planning mistakes most people make and how to overcome them in just five minutes. Overcoming "too much to do." ­ Professional/Personal Support #2. Now Question: How do I optimize the riches I get from the only thing I control ­ my action now? The most critical moment of our lives ­ Discovering the MIN Secret ­ Busting the time management myth: I control my time.

Module 3

Module 4

Implementing The Critical Basics

Module 5 How to live a longer life stress free ­ Five mistakes people make that cause stress ­ Setting daily priorities using the Aligned Thinking Institute tools. How to get rid of all interruptions forever ­ Living the Freedom Secret Work Smart Principles One and Two ­ An excel holding pen & priority list. Part 1 How to use the PFS (Priority Feedback System) to optimize the productivity and relationship of manager/direct report, partners and team ­ The Spirit of Partnering Part 2 ­ Follow-up Day Two Mistakes That Lead to Procrastination Work Smart Principles Three and Four. Module 8 Discovering the Celebrate Life Secret ­ Discovering what and how to celebrate 24/7 so you can Enjoy The Riches You REALLY Want From Life and Work ­ Sharing Aligned Thinking with others. Creating optimal experiences

Module 6

Module 7

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Executive Summary ­ Challenges

The Empowerment Secret

Where will I get the power, motivation and insights to align _ _ _ _ _ action to the ­ riches ­ the values ­ I REALLY cherish?

The Inner Fulfillment Secret

How can I make a Quantum Leap in motivation, accomplishment and satisfaction so I make a Quantum Leap in inner fulfillment and life's meaning at the _ _ _ _ ____?

Life Aligning Question #1A ­ The Purpose Question

What are the riches ­ the values ­ I REALLY cherish from life? My Personal Purpose or Mission

Planning To Fulfill My Purpose

How can I plan a project that will support my purpose so: - It is easy to plan? - The plan is effective? - The plan is clear to follow?

Mistake #1 Anyone can overcome, but few do.

They lack a _ _ _ _ _ written, regularly reviewed statement of the riches ­ the values ­ they REALLY cherish from their personal life.

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The Empowerment Secret

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Where will I get the power, motivation and insights to align EVERY action to the riches I REALLY want?

For some time, SSA researched how people can empower themselves to reach their full potential and enjoy the riches they REALLY want from life. Investigation into the lives of outstanding people revealed an exciting discovery. We will use this discovery for the rest of this program. You can use this discovery daily for the rest of your working days and beyond to optimize your inner fulfillment and do what most people believe impossible, align EVERY action to the riches you REALLY want. Michael Dell (1965)

In 1983, a young Michael Dell realized there was a lot of profit to be made in selling computers for $3,000 when the parts only cost $700. As he says in his book, Dell Direct, "I started the business with a simple question: How can we make the process of buying a computer better? The answer was: Sell computers directly to the end customer. Eliminate the resellers markup and pass those savings on to the customers." That question and answer has made Michael Dell one of the youngest and most admired CEO billionaires in the world today.

Henry Ford (1863-1947) In the last part of the 1800s and early 1900s, entrepreneurs around the world were asking themselves, "How can I build a luxurious horseless carriage that will capture a significant part of the lucrative auto market and make millions?" Ford changed the question. Ford asked what turned out to be a more empowering question, "How can I build an inexpensive horseless carriage that even my working people can afford?" To accomplish this, he created the assembly line ­ a significant simplification of the production process. In asking a more empowering question, he not only made millions but billions of dollars. The Ford Foundation ­ only a part of the Ford fortune ­ is worth over six billion dollars today.

Thomas Edison (1847-1931) Edison searched for many years for a material that would glow when it conducted electricity. It was only when he reversed his question to, "What material will resist electricity and glow?" that he invented the light bulb. By reversing his question to a more empowering one, he gave mankind the light bulb and made a tremendous fortune in the process.

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This is the empowerment of self and others.

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Leonardo da Vinci (1452-1519) Da Vinci was a famous genius and had great resources at his disposal. One of his questions was, "How can I fly?" He drew diagrams of how it might be done. But the question did not empower him to another great success. Why? His timing was off. He was 400 years too early!

Wright Brothers (Orville 1871-1948; Wilbur 1867-1912) In Dayton, Ohio, there were two brothers who were not accepted as geniuses. They were not famous. They did not have tremendous resources at their disposal. They were only bicycle mechanics. But, they asked the right question at the right time. They asked the same question da Vinci asked four centuries earlier, "How can I fly?" With the help of the newly invented gasoline engine, asking the right question at the right time empowered them to be the first to fly.

Socratic Method

About 400 B.C. Socrates taught his followers Philosophy by just asking them questions. Questions have the ability to motivate and guide a person. They also have the ability to generate energy to take action, thus we call them empowering.

Others Who Used The Question Method To Create Great Breakthroughs

John Goddard ­ space ­ Goddard Space Center F.B. Morse ­ communications ­ Morse code

Our Brains

Our brains are like very powerful computers. Whenever we ask ourselves a question, our brains will come up with an _ _ _ _ _ _ !

It might be the wrong answer, like da Vincis, but our powerful computer brains will come up with an answer.

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First Part of the Secret of Empowerment is ...

P1

SE

Ask the right _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ at the right _ _ _ _ .

Second Part of the Secret of Empowerment is ...

If the question seems too difficult to answer,

P2

SE

ask _ _ _ _ _ _ _ questions until it is _ _ _ _ to answer.

To be an Aligned Thinker, there are just four main questions that will empower you to optimize your life and enjoy the riches you REALLY want. These questions are called Life Aligning Questions. They are: Purpose/Goals Question Focus Question Now Question 5-Second MIN Question Interview, Ken Blanchard, author of "The One Minute Manager" For empowering questions and notes regarding the interview, see page 1.30.

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The Inner Fulfillment Secret The Research Results Showed2:

People who perceive themselves as having Inner Fulfillment are: Active Doing MEANINGFUL things With a sense of progress

Note:

Anyone can be active. If you work at something long enough, you can make progress and create a sense of progress.

The challenge is _ _ _ _ _ _ _ .

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This research was done with 150 presidents of companies with significant revenue. The results were at the highest degree of psychological certitude, the <.001 level. This means that there is less than 1 chance in 1000 that it just happened by chance.

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Where does the meaning of our actions come from?

Actions And Value

Actions in and of themselves do _ _ _ have value. For example, take the simple act of flipping a switch. Someone could flip a switch to turn on the light in a room. That is a routine act with little or no emotional overtones. A second person flipping the switch could be the President lighting his first Christmas tree on the White House lawn, a positive event with possibly significant emotional overtones. A third person flipping a switch could be the executioner flipping the electric chair switch. This action could be of significant value to those who feel justice is served. It could bring positive and negative emotions for many. It could literally be life concluding for another. The action was the same in each event, but the purpose and the emotional overtones were very different. Our actions receive their value from the purpose to which they are directed.

Take-Home Value: The Value Of Our Actions

Our actions receive their value from the _ _ _ _ _ _ _ to which they are directed.

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Value From Purpose

Figure A Figure B

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In Figure A, the person lacks a clear mission or purpose. There is little meaning or _ _ _ _ _ available from this unclear purpose.

In Figure B, the persons actions are connected to a clear and important mission or purpose. There is an _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ of values available to give the actions meaning.

Recall The Critical Basics

The inner-fulfilled person is active, doing meaningful things, with a sense of progress. Put an A or a B in the following blocks depending on which person has more... 1. Motivation to act ... 3. Possibility of a sense of progress ...

2. Meaning given to an action ...

1 + 2 + 3 = Inner Fulfillment Since inner fulfillment is being active, doing meaningful things with a sense of progress, who has more inner fulfillment?

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Take-Home Value:

Our Mission Or Purpose

It is to OUR ENLIGHTENED SELF-INTEREST to make our mission or purpose for work and living as _ _ _ _ _ (value-_ _ _ _ ) as possible.

The greater the value in our purpose the more riches we can get from our actions.

Questions To Ponder If a person receives little riches from their individual actions, what does it say about the richness and value of their purpose? Or might it say that the connection between the actions and the purpose is not clear?

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The Inner-fulfillment Secret

To optimize Inner fulfillment, M_ _ _ _ _ _ _ M_ _ _ _ _ _ And P_ _ _ _ _ _ .

Hint For Immediate Use

When I answer the Purpose Question, (What are the riches I REALLY want from life?) thereby creating my Personal Life Mission, make it as meaningful or _ _ _ _ _ ­ _ _ _ _ as possible you ii .

Interview, Dillard Myers, Global Directors of Service for Cisco Systems For empowering questions and notes regarding the interview, see page 1.30.

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Directions:

You probably have heard this song many times. This time, pay special attention to the words. Let the son be a symbol for your personal life. Cat's In The Cradle1 My child arrived just the other day. He came to the world in the usual way. But there were planes to catch and bills to pay. He learned to walk while I was away. And he was talkin ,,fore I knew it, and as he grew Hed say "Im gonna be like you, Dad, You know Im gonna be like you." My son turned ten just the other day. He said, "Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on lets play. Can you teach me to throw?" I said, "Not today I got a lot to do." He said, "Thats O.K." And he walked away but his smile never dimmed And said, "Im gonna be like him, yeah, You know Im gonna be like him." Well he came from college just the other day So much like a man I just had to say "Son, Im proud of you can you sit for awhile." He shook his head and said with a smile "What Id really like Dad is to borrow the car keys See you later. Can I have them please?" Ive long since retired. My sons moved away. I called him up just the other day. I said, "Id like to see you if you dont mind." He said, "Id love to Dad if I can find the time. You see my new jobs a hassle and the kids have the flu But its sure nice talking to you, Dad, Its been sure nice talking to you." And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me ­ Hed grown up just like me. My boy was just like me. And the cats in the cradle and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man in the moon "When you comin home son?" "I dont know when, but well get together then. You know well have a good time then." Harry Chapin

Outline your reactions (thoughts, feelings, "real-life" implications) to this song:

How can this song help you create your mission to live by?

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Life Aligning Question 1A ­ The Purpose Question Create Your Personal Mission

Review of Facts Less than __% of the population has a written, prioritized personal mission. Yet, a personal mission can: - Provide _ _ _ _ _ _ _ for your life.

- Serve as a principle around which to organize your life. - Give you a point around which to focus your strengths, which can add to your life _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ . - Clarify your reason for working and increase your work related accomplishment. - Help you overcome_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ burnout. - Help you build your here and now inner fulfillment.

A written, prioritized personal life mission can help you do all the above with greater consistency and _ _ _ _ .

Review of Critical Basics

Your personal life mission does not come from: - your birth - your parents - your religion - your education - your situation

The Bad News

All of the above can influence your personal life mission.

If you are to enjoy the riches of your personal mission, you _ _ _ _ create your own.

The Good News

You _ _ _

create your own.

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Creating Your Prioritized Personal Purpose/Mission Made Easier 2 Step 1:

Directions:

Capturing your feelings, values, desires and needs

On page 1.18, circle those items you believe are critical for you to live a successful life with _ _ _ _ _ inner fulfillment. Ask yourself, "What is so important that makes me want to get up every day and live to the_ _ _ _ _ _ _ ?" Add any other items you wish that are not listed here.

Step 2:

A.

Creating your prioritized personal purpose/mission

Ask yourself, "Of all the items circled on page 1.18, if I could have just _ _ _ , which would it be?" List this item on page 1.21. (See example on page 1.19.) Write a brief description of this item. Ask again, "Of all the items left, if I could have just one more, which would it be?" List this item on page 1.21. (See example on page 1.19.) Write a brief description of this item. Repeat the process until you have exhausted the critical items.

B.

C.

Step 3:

Refining your personal purpose/mission

Today, you created the most accurate value-rich personal mission possible. Next, you will go into the refinement circle pictured below. Create Mission

Refine your Mission

Experience how the Mission works for you

Implement Mission

See; Aligned Thinking: Make Every Moment Count: - Chapter 7, How to Clarify Your Life Purpose

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Something so important will never be easy.

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Personal Mission or Purpose ­ What are the _ _ _ _ _ _ you REALLY want to enjoy from life?

Step 1: Circle those items you believe are critical for you to live a successful life with great inner fulfillment. You can circle heading line "Financial" or individual item under a heading like "my annual income." Spouse and/or Financial Contribution to Significant Other my annual income Humanity Development relationship through my work our family income Physical Health understanding through my daily savings, stocks state of health needs & goals of life annual expenses needed to spouse and/or through my insurance accomplish the significant other family above quality time through my Friends annual check-up together (amount, charity number of close when) exercise program through friends fun things we both sports participated organizations I larger circle of enjoy in belong to friends vacations, short eating habits during retirement time spent with vacations, long drinking habits other friends contributions smoking habits vacations taken Family outdoor activities with friends number of Person I Would other physical ability to enjoy children Like To Be health goals other people ages of children assertive other social goals financial needs of caring Spiritual Health children celebrating know Supreme Career (education, Being better competitive position wedding, etc.) value Supreme creative company dream(s) for Being more excited second career children, enjoy Supreme exciting the things I want grandchildren Being more from my career expert in my field vacations with talk to Supreme career needs of faithful children (short, Being regularly significant other full long) work to please career of God-related Supreme Being significant other growing Appreciation of second career of happy music significant other helping sports Intellectual honest theater Development Retirement involved art reading financial plans kind hobbies continuing funds needed loving education other things funds provided loyal courses to take place to live motivated Home present activities open where to continue positive kind of house activities I would risk-taking number of rooms like to learn secure size of mortgage travel spontaneous other home other ret. goals tolerant related goals wealthy

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Step 2: Creating Your Prioritized Value-rich Personal Mission A. Ask yourself, "Of all the items circled on page 1.18, if I could have just _ _ _ , which would it be?" List this item on page 1.21. (See example on page 1.19.) Write a brief description of this item. Ask again, "Of all the items left, if I could have just one more, which would it be?" List this item on page 1.21. (See example on page 1.19.) Write a brief description of this item. Repeat the process until you have exhausted the critical items.

B.

C.

Mission 1. To have a close relationship with my Higher Power

The Why and How of it Why: If I mess up everything else but get this straight, I'm okay for eternity. How: Ask three empowering questions daily: 1. How can I appreciate and enjoy my Higher Power more today? 2. How can I please my Higher Power more today? 3. How can I be closer to my Higher Power today?

2. Person I want to be: - Excited about what I am doing - Totally involved, creating my life and work as I want them to be

Why: I like to be excited. I must love myself well so I can love others as myself. How: Use Aligned Thinking.

3. Healthy me - Weight: 170 - Cholesterol: < 200, 4 ratio - Exercise: 3x week, 30 minutes

Why: Need healthy body to enjoy life. How: Watch diet. Walk regularly. Keep a record.

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4. Great relationship with significant other

Why: I love her/him; she/he is worth it. I'm a better person when I have this relationship. How: Ask 3 empowering questions daily: 1. How can I appreciate and enjoy her/him more today? 2. How can I please/surprise her/him today? 3. How can I be closer to her/him today?

5. Great relationship with children

Why: They are worth it. I enjoy them and we have a great relationship. How: Ask 3 empowering questions daily: 1. How can I appreciate, value and enjoy them more today? 2. How can I please/surprise them more today? 3. How can I be closer to them today?

6. Make significant contribution to humanity

Why: I have been given much. It is a value to me to make a contribution. How: In work In writing

7. Create financial security

Why: Need this to do rest. How: Whatever I do, create many Very Satisfied Customers.

8. Discover new places

Why: I like to see and experience new things. How: Travel Read Converse

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Step 2: Creating Your Prioritized Value-rich Personal Mission A. Ask yourself, "Of all the items circled on page 1.18, if I could have just one, which would it be?" List this item on page 1.21. Write a brief description of this item. Ask again, "Of all the items left, if I could have just one more, which would it be?" List this next item on page1.21, and write a brief description. Repeat the process until you have exhausted the critical items. Mission 1. The Why and How of it

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Bonus: Creating My Personal Mission On The Internet

Directions: at www.SSAinternational.com - click AT Lunch Series Login Click Home ­ or go to Home Page Click Personal Mission Step 2B ­ follow the prompts Fill out the screens Results to Expect When you have completed all the screens, the following will happen: 1. 2. 3. On your home page, the next time you click on "Personal Mission" (Step 2B), your Personal Mission will open. If you want to re-create your Personal Mission, you can click on "re-create." The last reviewed date will be updated on your Home Page.

Benefits to be Expected

Challenge To align all your actions to THE _ _ _ _ _ _ YOU REALLY WANT from life as captured in your Personal Mission.

Solution

To keep your Personal Mission in mind, a common sense thing to do is to _ _ _ _ _ _ it each day before you set your priorities. The system makes this easy. On your home page, click on your "Personal Mission" just before you set your priorities. It will conveniently drop down for quick review. Print your Personal Mission and post it where it will be easy to review just before you set your priorities for the day.

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Planning a Goal that Supports My Personal Mission

A Goal is a specific object to be accomplished that is measurable with a time line. Directions: Choose one Personal Mission Write a S-M-A-R-T Goal statement that will help you fulfill one of your personal missions. In the MILESTONES and TARGET sections, describe what progress you would like to make in relation to that goal over the next 12 to 18 months. Write and plan your three to five most important goals.

GOAL STATEMENT:

To spend more quality time with my

family and friends within the next year.

__ Specific

__ Measurable

__ Achievable

__ Related to Mission

__ Time Related Target S 9/15/20__ c 9/21/20__

MILESTONES (What) ...Spend at least one hour of quality time with family daily. ...Spend weekends with family (outdoors if possible). ...Minimize working late and always call the kids before their bedtime when I have to work late. ...Call or write at least one long-distance friend each week. ...At least once a week, spend two or more hours with an old friend.

S 9/15/20__ S 9/21/20__ S 10/1/20__

s = start

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GOAL STATEMENT:

__ Specific

__ Measurable

__ Achievable

__ Related to Mission

__ Time Related Target

MILESTONES (What)

s = start

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Coach's Guidance and Assignment

Assignment 1. Create a value-rich life purpose. Answer the purpose question: What are the riches ­ the values ­ I REALLY want from life? Date Due Draft one end of today 15 minutes Have fun Just before I set my daily priorities Check to indicate ­ I accept

2. _ _ _ _ and _ _ _ _ _ _ my value-rich life purpose daily. 3. Set and plan one goal that will support my work purpose. 4. Be aware of the questions I use to motivate and guide myself and others. 5. Review my commitments with my partner/team.

Daily

Immediately after class.

6. Review the bonus session.

Important Notes - If you have not taken the Aligned Thinking Assessment, please do so today. Score yourself how you would do it before class began.

- If you have not put the dates of each module and the follow-up session in your schedule, please do so immediately.

- If you need help, I consider it a privilege to help you. Call 203-740-8400 or email [email protected] I prefer calls, as it is more personal and quicker for you.

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Material for Module 1 bonus session

Duration ­ 60 minutes Email your questions to [email protected]

Goals ­ Personal

8. 9. 10. 11.

My Personal Mission (my purpose for living) is clear to me. I have a clearly written Personal Mission Statement. I review my Personal Mission Daily. I have a clearly written set of goals that support and help me fulfill my personal mission. I have updated my personal goals recently (within the last 6 to 12 months). This update has been reviewed with my significant other. (If no significant other, check yes.) I have a written plan with measurable milestones and target times for my most important personal goals.

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When the assignment for Module 1 is completed, you will have _ _ _ _ _ out mistake #1.

Mistake #1 Anyone can overcome, but few do.

They lack a clear _ _ _ _ _ _ _ , regularly reviewed statement of the riches ­ the values - they REALLY cherish from their personal life.

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See p. 1.29 Empowering Question Commitments To Myself Date Due or Started Have I made this commitment to myself?

Initial if yes.

Personal Mission 1. Create a value-rich life purpose or life mission answering the purpose question: What are the riches I REALLY want from life? 2. Post and review daily the riches I REALLY want from life, i.e. my life purpose. Just before I set my daily priorities

3. Set and plan one goal that will support my personal life purpose. 4. Use the Freedom Secret to freely focus on my P (Primary Desire) and accept the NCs (Necessary Conditions) to reach or achieve my P. 5. Share my commitments with my team.

6. Review the bonus session.

Progress 7. Where are you experiencing the greatest progress and/or benefits?

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Empowering Secret See pp. 1.7-1.9 9. What questions do (or might) you regularly ask yourself that give you power or guidance?

10. What questions do (or might) you regularly ask others to guide or motivate them?

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Interviews for Critical Basics 1C

11. Ken Blanchard ­ Speaker, Author of "The One Minute Manager" What insights did he share that you want to remember?

How can you use these insights in your life and the lives of those you care about?

12. Dillard Myers, Global VP, Cisco What insights did he share that you want to remember?

How can you use these insights in your life and the lives of those you care about?

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12. Dr. Paul Johnson, Superintendent Schools, Bismarck ND What insights did he share that you want to remember?

How can you use these insights in your life and the lives of those you care about?

13. John Dunderdale, Global VP Lotus Sales, IBM What insights did he share that you want to remember?

How can you use these insights in your life and the lives of those you care about?

14. Neil Washburn Manager Service New York County What insights did he share that you want to remember?

How can you use these insights in your life and the lives of those you care about?

What is the value of the team, team support and team discussions?

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