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Tapping for Self-Esteem

By Elaine Nitz, EFT-Adv www.tapintoyourdreams.com

By Elaine Nitz, EFT-CC, EFT-ADV www.tapintoyourdreams.com Self-esteem plays a major role in whether a person achieves what he or she sets out to do. You might say it's a foundation stone in building your life. If you have a low self-esteem, it will be more difficult to take the steps necessary to build a good life. It's more difficult to motivate yourself because you don't feel you have the abilities or the capabilities to do what needs to be done. You don't have the confidence that you've got what it takes to succeed, and it's easy to feel overwhelmed. When you have high self-esteem, your life seems to flow more smoothly. The minor irritations don't bother you, and you're not intimidated by glitches along the way. You have confidence in yourself and your ability to handle whatever situations arise. You know you have what it takes to succeed. Having a low self-esteem doesn't have to be permanent. You can transform it. How? One very effective way is to use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to remove those feelings that keep you believing you are not worthy of having success. EFT is based on the same principles as acupuncture, but you use your fingertips to tap on the body's acupressure points while focusing on a specific phrase associated with an event or an issue. The EFT acupressure tapping points on the body as shown in this diagram. (Illustration

Tapping for Self-Esteem

from Rebecca Marina's web site, www.celebrationhealing.com.)

While rubbing the sore chest spot (purple dots) or tapping the karate chop point on the hand, say the set-up phrase three times. Then tap 5 to 7 times on each acupressure point (red dots) in the illustration, starting with the point on the top of the head. Say a reminder phrase while tapping on each point, ending with the point beneath the breast. Use either hand for tapping, as the points are the same on both sides of the face and torso. For a more complete description of EFT, download the free manual from Gary Craig, the inventor of EFT, at www.emofree.com.

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When trying to resolve self-esteem issues, it can be difficult to come up with tapping phrases. Below are words or phrases that can cause painful feelings, as well as related words that create positive feelings. Print out this document and then read through the list and see whether any of the negative phrases reflect how you feel about yourself. Place the intensity level that you have for each of the negative words or phrases that trigger a reaction in the Charge column. Use a scale of 0 to 10, with 10 the most intense. Charge Tapped Charge Tapped Tapped Charge Tapped Charge Word or Phrase Unlovable Lovable A throw-away Worth keeping No good Wonderful Not good enough to be loved More than good enough to be loved Less than More than Unimportant Outstanding Heartless Loving A loser A winner Word or Phrase Not wanted Wanted and appreciated Not worth loving Lovable Not good enough Impressive Have no value Word or Phrase Word or Phrase Disposable Valued Worthless Priceless Not enough Extraordinary Insufficient

Not needed Needed and appreciated Not worth respecting Worthy of respect Don'measure up t A winner Inadequate

Priceless Useless Gifted Don'count t Valuable Ugly Beautiful A failure Accomplished

Accomplished Insignificant Remarkable Don't matter Important Fat Slim and trim Can'cut it t Can do it Page 3 of 8

Incredible A nothing Amazing A nobody A unique and wonderful person A slut Virtuous and good Don'have what t it takes Exceptional

Charge Tapped

Charge Tapped

Tapped

Incompetent Capable Stupid Intelligent Weak Tough A wimp Strong Lazy Hard working Dishonest Honest Just like your parents Unique and special

Screwed up Totally together Unstable Steady as a rock Helpless Competent A coward Fearless Self-centered Caring Bad Good

Something is wrong with me I am perfect the way I am Inferior Top quality Needy Self-reliant Irresponsible Dependable Inconsiderate Thoughtful Wrong Right

Can'do t anything right Multi-talented Defective Perfect Clingy Self-sufficient Unreliable Reliable Selfish Humane Evil Righteous

Negative words or phrases from Bill Ferguson's web site www.divorceasfriends.com.

Each day, take two to five words or phrases from the tables above that provoke a reaction and tap on them. Always have plenty of water available to keep yourself hydrated because water helps your energy flow more easily. Before tapping on the phrases above, start with a round of tapping to realign your energy and to get it flowing in the right direction. This process will help you see greater results from tapping on the selfesteem phrases. While rubbing the sore chest spot or tapping on the karate chop point on the side of your hand, say the following set-up phrases: Even though my energy may be scattered, out of balance and flowing incorrectly, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. (Repeat)

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Charge Tapped

Charge

Word or Phrase

Word or Phrase

Word or Phrase

Word or Phrase

Even though my energy may be scattered, it may be out of balance and it may be flowing incorrectly, I ask and allow my energy to come into alignment, I ask and allow my energy to come into balance and I ask and allow my energy to flow correctly, and I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Then while tapping on each of the listed points, say the phrases given for each point: Top of the Head: My energy may be scattered. Inside the Eyebrow: My energy may be out of balance. Side of the Eye: My energy may be flowing incorrectly. Under the Eye: It may be all scattered. Under the Nose: It may be out of balance. Chin point: It may be flowing incorrectly. Collarbone point: I ask and allow my energy to come into alignment. Under the Arm: I ask and allow my energy to balance. Under the Breast: I ask and allow my energy to flow correctly. Next, check whether you still have the same readings for your reaction to the words or phrases from the table on which you want to work. Create a set-up phrase using the first word or phrase. An example might be: "Even though I believe I'm unlovable, I deeply and completely love and accept myself." or "Even though I believe I'm not wanted, I deeply and completely love and accept myself." Then use the reminder phrase of "unlovable" or "unwanted" for each tapping point. You also can combine more than one word or phrase into one sentence. For example, "Even though I believe I'm unlovable and not wanted, I deeply and completely love and accept myself." The reminder phrase would be "unlovable and not wanted". Complete a round or two of EFT, beginning with the sore chest spot or the karate chop point. When you're finished, check your intensity level. If you still have a level above a 2 or a 3, do another round saying "Even though I still have some remaining belief that I'm ..." Repeat until your level is at a 2 or 3.

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If any memories or issues come up while you're tapping on the phrases, tap on those memories or issues and any related aspects that also may surface until they no longer cause a reaction for you. Use this form to record the aspects and memories, and your progress as you work through them. Charge Tapped Charge Tapped Tapped Charge Tapped Charge Word or Phrase Word or Phrase Word or Phrase Word or Phrase

When your intensity level reaches a 2 or a 3 for the original word or phrase, introduce a "choices statement", which was developed by Dr. Patricia Carrington. (See www.eftupdate.com for more information.) Use the alternate words or phrases provided in the table with each painful word or phrase.

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An example might be: "Even though I have some remaining belief that I'm unlovable, I choose to believe I AM lovable, and I deeply and completely love and accept myself." The combination statement would be "Even though I believe I'm unlovable and I'm not wanted, I choose to believe I AM lovable, wanted and appreciated, and I deeply and completely love and accept myself." Do a complete round of EFT, alternating each tapping point with the negative and positive statement, i.e. first tapping point ­ "I'm not lovable" or "I'm not lovable and I'm unwanted"; next tapping point "I AM lovable" or "I AM lovable, wanted and appreciated." Repeat for the EFT sequence. You also can do the negative statement for the first half of the tapping points and the positive statement for the second half of the tapping points. Always end on a positive statement. Repeat this process as many times as you need for each phrase to bring the intensity level down to 0. Place a 0 in the "Tapped" column associated with the word or phrase to keep track of those you've tapped away. If you do not have time to get down to a 0, enter the rating you end with so you can come back to it at a later time. After tapping these issues down to a 0 rating, you'll soon have a brand new outlook about yourself! Tapas Acupressure Technique (TAT) also is very good for emotional release and is especially good at releasing pools of negative energy. Hold the pose while concentrating on the negative word or phrase. Then take your hands down for a minute and relax. Resume the pose and hold while concentrating on the positive word or phrase. You can view a free video of this technique or download the free manual at http://www.tat-intl.com/ Place your thumb 1/8th inch above the inside corner of your eye. Place the fourth finger of the same hand at the inside corner of your other eye in the same area. Your middle finger will be resting lightly in the middle of your forehead just above the center of your eyebrows. With the other hand, cradle the back of your head, as shown in the next set of illustrations.

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Here is an illustration of the points on the face and the hand placement on the back of the head:

More detailed instructions on TAT are available from the TATLife newsletter by Tapas Fleming. TAT is an easy process for ending traumatic stress, reducing allergic reactions and freeing yourself of negative beliefs. It is a simple and effective technique to deliver inner peace, relaxation, more vibrant health and empowerment in minutes. TAT and EFT do not replace therapy or health care from medical professionals.

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